But you have muscle. I need muscle if you want to look good with that weight. Mine was flab.I weighed in at 167 yesterday and I’m 5’7. No lard. I’m also an ectomorph. You can do it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
But you have muscle. I need muscle if you want to look good with that weight. Mine was flab.I weighed in at 167 yesterday and I’m 5’7. No lard. I’m also an ectomorph. You can do it.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I mean when I get muscle post pics of it. Maybe match it wont work but garbage sites like pof.What's your BMI? Do you know? I'm guessing it isn't within a healthy range. In fact, unless you have bird bones, you probably look like an Auschwitz survivor.
To put this into perspective for you, my wife is 5'9" and 125lbs, and at a perfect BMI...for a woman. Just posting ab pics probably isn't going to help you much on OLD, when these chicks discover they outweigh you! You need to bulk up, to a healthy athletic size, for a MAN your height...not a Kenyan marathoner, either(even female marathoners don't find that build attractive).
And just to reiterate, my waist is 30.5.” I wear a 32 pants tailored mostly because 30 and 31 won’t fit my legs (side effect of barbell squats)But you have muscle. I need muscle if you want to look good with that weight. Mine was flab.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What kinds of dumbbells did you get BG? The adjustable kind?Tomorrow hopefully he shows to get this put together once and for all. I'm also ordering an exercise back off Amazon tonight too for the garage. So I will have this total gym, the treadmill, exercise back, and dumb bells! Basically a mini gym. I better be all buff by August. I can post ab pics on match then.
Dumbbells won’t make you big bro. Get a power rack and some barbells.Tomorrow hopefully he shows to get this put together once and for all. I'm also ordering an exercise back off Amazon tonight too for the garage. So I will have this total gym, the treadmill, exercise back, and dumb bells! Basically a mini gym. I better be all buff by August. I can post ab pics on match then.
Yea the ones you can put different amount of weights on.What kinds of dumbbells did you get BG? The adjustable kind?
Doing dumbbell squats with a lot of weight is virtually impossible lolDumbbells won’t make you big bro. Get a power rack and some barbells.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This thread is great. I'm starting to think that he just wants abs and doesn't really want to bulk up at all?If I hear you mention "intense cardio" one more time I might have an anurism.
Even if he wants a "Brad Pitt in fight club" he's going to need to add probably at least 20lbs of pure muscle, 30lbs overall bodyweight, AT LEASTThis thread is great. I'm starting to think that he just wants abs and doesn't really want to bulk up at all?
Correct and great post.I may be be biased because of my military background, but I don't think he needs to bulk up. He just needs to pt (physical training) everyday and increase his testosterone. Back when I used to wrestle and box in the military, aesthetic muscle meant nothing. The most ferocious guy who intimidated the entire platoon was a lean 5'8 160 lb guy. Even the officers who did multiple tours in Iraq were intimidated by him. When he took down a guy who was 6'2 225, everyone was shook.
And of course, he also cleaned up with women.
I've noticed that testosterone, keeping a low body fat, and being a lean and mean motherfvcker with functional muscle is underemphasized on this forum. People are more concerned with aesthetics.
But trust me when I tell you that women can spot a bada$$ from a pretender. I know a computer programmer who packed on 25 lbs of muscle from a doing a cycle of testosterone and DBOL. He still has a nerdy looking face and a timid vibe. And he still can't get laid. He probably would have been better off taking a military bootcamp. He looks completely incongruent with his bulging muscles and beta/nerdy presence. And he still gets picked on by guys half his size. Nobody is fooled by his superficial muscles. It's your presence that attracts women and intimidate men. And your presence is the totality of you, not just what you do 30 mins in the gym.
When I came out of the military, my bone density became thicker, jawline became more pronounced, cheekbones sharper looking, and my neck got thicker, even though I didn't gain any additional weight. These are things women notice. They notice subtle masculine characteristics caused by high testosterone, not just puffed up chests and biceps. Basically I look like a guy where if you were to fight me, you would have to prepare to go to the death.
Biggoal looks like he's never been in a fight in his life. Lifting weights is just superficial change. He is better off learning MMA, taking a psuedo military bootcamp and learning values and discipline (some cities offer this), and competing in masculine activities like sports or fighting.
He needs to change his entire presence and disposition form momma's boy to harda$$ man.
There is something very primal that women like if you look like a guy who can handle himself should total anarchy arise.
Yes the bodybuilding community has a lot of lies. For one, consuming red meat with any kind of regularity is an easy way to **** up your blood lipid profile.Yeah women can always tell you're a beast. No amount of body building can fool them, lol. Look at all the gymcels. I know many gymcels. But I don't know any beastcels. Legit beasts have women ovulation in their presence.
Don't get me wrong, I lift too. But for strength, health, and athleticism. I don't do the whole 6 meals a day + protein shakes and supplements to gain a superficial amount of weight thing. I did that once and the military doctor told me I had a dangerous amount of protein in my blood, lol.
He told me my hormones don't turn the protein into muscle fast enough, and that most of the body building community is sham marketing. They all take steroids to change their hormones. Anything outside 3-4 solid meals is a waste and could even throw my vitals off. Ever since then I've just stuck to natural eating and working on being strong and athletic.
In case anyone is wondering, military training was more like attaching an 80 lb bag on your back and hiking up a mountain for 3 miles, and then going back down 3 miles, lol. You can't even stand anymore when its over. After something like that, you just looking like a different kind of "strong." Or running 3 miles with a gas mask where you can barely breath in 90 degree weather. Every thing we did was a "trial and tribulation."
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I just eat to my hunger and eat pretty much what I want, have never don't the chicken and brown rice 6x a day but my physique is naturally lean and we'll proportioned so I always have that bodybuilder look, I don't have any interest in bulking up any more than I am nowYeah women can always tell you're a beast. No amount of body building can fool them, lol. Look at all the gymcels. I know many gymcels. But I don't know any beastcels. Legit beasts have women ovulation in their presence.
Don't get me wrong, I lift too. But for strength, health, and athleticism. I don't do the whole 6 meals a day + protein shakes and supplements to gain a superficial amount of weight thing. I did that once and the military doctor told me I had a dangerous amount of protein in my blood, lol.
He told me my hormones don't turn the protein into muscle fast enough, and that most of the body building community is sham marketing. They all take steroids to change their hormones. Anything outside 3-4 solid meals is a waste and could even throw my vitals off. Ever since then I've just stuck to natural eating and working on being strong and athletic.
In case anyone is wondering, military training was more like attaching an 80 lb bag on your back and hiking up a mountain for 3 miles, and then going back down 3 miles, lol. You can't even stand anymore when its over. After something like that, you just looking like a different kind of "strong." Or running 3 miles with a gas mask where you can barely breath in 90 degree weather. Every thing we did was a "trial and tribulation."
Makes sense, it's a bit of trial and error finding a good starting weight.The pull down bar I'll have to use more weight because that was pretty easy.
How many hours each session should I use it?Makes sense, it's a bit of trial and error finding a good starting weight.
The key is being consistent. And it sounds like you are able to keep consistency with your cardio, so just apply the same here.
As for gains, just be patient, shouldn't take too long for you to notice some difference. As long as you don't expect to look like a roid freak.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.