Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You don't need a full beard; 2-3 mm stubble will look even better. Buy a trimmer from Costco for $50 and use it twice a week (5-10 min per session). Also, your haircut is too short.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Look at Tanner Guzy, im not a fan of him but wow the ttansformation
He's a ginger, more of an orange color though.. Shorter hair the better. Most ladies do not trip over themselves with orange / gingers...
Your HB6, are my and most dude's here HB 2-3's. Take what you can get. I will agree with the 5 o'clock shadow though. It will make you look more masculine. You every edge you can get. Everyone told you to move, but you do not want to leave Mommy.. So, IDK.
Ik truth is most ginger men are at a disadvantage look wise.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Maybe some scruff and a shaved head would work for him? Hard to say. @biggoal, do you have any friends or people who you can ask for advice in terms of IRL that are good with style? Do you know any gay dudes? They will prob. be good one's to ask on style.
I did have an lesbian manager (low end HB 7) once but she got transfered to another location. One year older than me. Instagram and FB hog she is.
Ask her for advice. You need someone hands on IRL. Besides,, ladies love to do make overs.
Lean af and a weak chin, bad combo.
Agreed. Weight gainer is perfect for him. It's the fastest way he can put on the LBS; but he also needs to push some iron.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Gaining weight doesn't do any good if you don't work out. It will go to fat. In my case the fat goes straight to my gut.
We said you have to take up strength training.
That's true... unless you pay a good photographer.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's not good in that point.
Nice looking kid, definitely can pass for 18
Then go workout.
What’s the status of your workout machine? Is it together yet?
Like I said if you lived in my region and 60 or over you'd clean up down here. It's like the opposite age wise living in nyc or la for dating. But most girls decent ones at a min 45 miles away. That just wont work for a relationship and wont go anywhere. Why would a woman even reply to you if you're 60 miles away anyway. I'm up to 70 mile radius because 60 miles or less and I see the same handful of faces everyday.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
