BackInTheGame78
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So this is a little bit of a weird situation I have never been in before. I had been dating this woman for several weeks, were on 5 dates, 2 of them were at her place, watched a movie and the second time cooked dinner together and watched a movie. Things got pretty heavy the 2nd time and likely would have led to us banging if not for the late time and us both having to be up for work early the next day. She sent me a very positive text following saying how much she loves spending time with me and how she couldn't wait for us to do it again. So I have not banged her yet(I know its my fault), but this is definitely someone I see LTR potential in, and I believe she in me as well, so I have been patient
Then this is where things went off track, and its not like I am blaming her or upset with anything because this is truly one of those "life just sucks sometimes" situations.
Within the last 5 weeks she has had 2 deaths in her family unexpectedly(grandma and sister...they are legit she sent me the obituary links), her work environment became extremely stressful due to an HR investigation she got dragged into that she really had nothing to do with, and now based off that they decides to close her store leaving her out of a job in a month. So she has been dealing with a lot, Mom is literally on suicide watch so she has been over there a lot and now has to deal with both estates and lawyers etc because nobody else can do it.
So needless to say I haven't seen her since this all went down, but we have texted probably twice a week or so, her initiating a lot of times because I have been trying to give her space to deal with all of this and not come off as pushy. I asked her if she wanted to get together twice during this span but she said she literally has no time now but definitely wants to meet up once all of this calms down some.
So I guess my question is what is the best way to handle this on my end? I obviously am interested in seeing her, I feel that she is as well but right now life is kind of in the way. I'm dating other women but I don't see the potential in them like I do in her.
Don't want to push in this situation but also don't want to be a penpal forever. I have no reason to doubt she is being sincere with me because she has always been straight up and honest but at the same time a small part of me thinks that if she really wanted to see me in this time she would have figured out a way. But I also know everyone deals with stress differently and this is a whole lot to pile on all at once and she has even said with all this other stuff going on she hasn't really even felt like she had a chance to even grieve properly.
Advice on best way to handle this?
Then this is where things went off track, and its not like I am blaming her or upset with anything because this is truly one of those "life just sucks sometimes" situations.
Within the last 5 weeks she has had 2 deaths in her family unexpectedly(grandma and sister...they are legit she sent me the obituary links), her work environment became extremely stressful due to an HR investigation she got dragged into that she really had nothing to do with, and now based off that they decides to close her store leaving her out of a job in a month. So she has been dealing with a lot, Mom is literally on suicide watch so she has been over there a lot and now has to deal with both estates and lawyers etc because nobody else can do it.
So needless to say I haven't seen her since this all went down, but we have texted probably twice a week or so, her initiating a lot of times because I have been trying to give her space to deal with all of this and not come off as pushy. I asked her if she wanted to get together twice during this span but she said she literally has no time now but definitely wants to meet up once all of this calms down some.
So I guess my question is what is the best way to handle this on my end? I obviously am interested in seeing her, I feel that she is as well but right now life is kind of in the way. I'm dating other women but I don't see the potential in them like I do in her.
Don't want to push in this situation but also don't want to be a penpal forever. I have no reason to doubt she is being sincere with me because she has always been straight up and honest but at the same time a small part of me thinks that if she really wanted to see me in this time she would have figured out a way. But I also know everyone deals with stress differently and this is a whole lot to pile on all at once and she has even said with all this other stuff going on she hasn't really even felt like she had a chance to even grieve properly.
Advice on best way to handle this?