You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You know... I actually learn a ton from the BigDave, BigGoal, and RichardTheFrog threads.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I swear, it's like watching a train wreck over and over again.
I love it. I'm entertained and I'm learning. I learned a ton about inner game and texting from the BigGoal/BigDave threads
What's wrong with texting?
Yea, how to dry their p ussy and not get laid from these two knuckleheads. Sigh....
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So you're saying I need to find a way to close the deal and watch what I say when texting with them so I don't screw it up?
Buy the book "Game" by Roosh V. It's like $13 on his website.
I agree with you on the texting part for sure
Following Biggoal and Bigdave was a joke...
Oh I know haha
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No lol. Just regular porn on porn hub once in awhile like everyone else. I like the casting couch ones or Mom POV has 40 year olds, but nothing older than that. Tushy.com has some good videos too!
Damn, I paid $29 for it, I like to feel the pages of a book cause I went to speedreading classes in 9th grade. Also, I wanted to donate to Roosh. It's not often that I donate to really much of anything, but when I see a cause I'm up for, I'll part with a half an hour worth of my work/time.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Did you get the hardcover?
I think more as a friend, emotional tampon just based on her personality and all. She does seem like a nice person. Very friendly and all. She does say the 13 year age gap is really big though and keeps having second thoughts on it but says we could possibly be friends and invite me to do stuff with her. She wants someone she can marry and that.
I did learn not to spend $60 on meal dates anymore. FIrst date should be something cheap and simple when meeting for the first time, especially if it's an OLD girl.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.