I'm not. I'm just a kid at heart!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'm spending hours a day on OLD. Is that an issue? Obsessed?
- Thread starter biggoal
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Why the obsession with the HB 9 hottie? Do you consume pornography?
On occasion like most of us I will go on pornhub. You know what would be a neat job? To be that dude who does the back room casting videos series!
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
The thing is it becomes a vicious circle. You spend hours scrolling through hotties on the dating apps, get frustrated, visit P site, rinse and repeat. The two are probably tied at the hip. Why not give yourself a challenge and see if you can go cold turkey... from both the apps and porn? And then see how you get on in real life talking to women you meet in the normal course of your day.
I'll still talk to that one 44 yr old HB7. We plan on meeting up.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
In regards to my previous post about looking and dressing good and throwing cash down on like a Breitling or Rolex, what about a nice shirt like one of those Chairman Mao shirts you see the Marshal, Kim Jong un wearing? They look really fancy, especially if you're a slim guy. He looks good for a fat guy in it.
Well this is the type of chick I'm looking for on OLD. Like this Morgan Brian from the women's soccer team. Athletic, slim and an HB9. Perfect looking. granted that one I went on that date with was built very similar to her except older of course. Goofy personality too. Totally would smash it hard.
So I messaged an HB 7 yesterday and she read the message and then looked at my profile. Anyway today she viewed my profile again. Should I send little jokingly flirty message about looking at my profile again and to not be shy?
Like my work I do a couple nights at the grocery store you will see a few HB7s and 8s shopping but you can't really hit on them while in the ugly uniform. They will see you as a min wage loser trying to chat them up even though I own a business. They don't see it that way.
Why is it you hear about VERY few successful stories about OLD leading to long term relationships? Very seldom do I hear anything positive about it. Especially on this site and loveshack most don't seem to be very big fans of OLD, especially on here.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She did reply back and said we have a lot in common with each other and she liked what she saw on my profile, but me being over 60 miles away she said it was simply just too far away from her. I believe her profile said within 40 miles so I was really stretching it. That's the problem. 80 percent of the chicks I have to message are at the very least 40 miles away. Most 50-70 miles away so you see where that's going. Like I said, my county and nearby there simply isn't a lot on OLD. Ironic further away I have better luck getting replies in that 40-50 mile range from the more urban areas. Like that HB9 two weeks ago was 60 miles away from me. I message the ones closer by and just not a lot of luck. The closer to Tampa I go the more replies.
I can't see how anything could really work over 40 miles away to be honest, but where I live and the lack of choices I really have no choice to really extend my boundaries.
Nope. I actually have ADHD though. Not as hyper as I was when I was younger though. I actually wouldn't shut up in school nor would I pay attention in class.
Okay biggoal.