"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why have standards?

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This is kind of an open ended question that got me thinking. Lots of guys on here say 'just go smash', but a 10 to you might be a 6 to me or vice versa. Some only care if she's female and breathing, others want a woman with her own income, hobbies, kegel workout schedule, etc.

Personally I believe the woman I smash is a reflection of myself. I won't continue seeing a woman that isn't continuously improving herself because eventually I'll outgrow her and naturally lose interest.

What are your standards for a woman and why are they what they are?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My standards is simple but also high.

She has to be fvckable, that means low mileage and I would know if she's not after the 1st round.

She has to be amusing, that means she's not an empty airhead who only talks shiet or knows shiet.

There are 2 kinds of pretty women to me, one are those normal ones that's lit up like a plastic Christmas tree, remove the lights and it's all plastic underneath. The other is like a fresh Christmas tree, a beautiful soul even without the lights and trinkets, and gets beautifully done on the outside when she's decked on those flashy trinkets.
 

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Of course, the logical end point of such discussions is a return to good old-fashioned standards in all respects. And this is not sarcasm, which is probably superfluous to say coming from me.
 

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This is kind of an open ended question that got me thinking. Lots of guys on here say 'just go smash', but a 10 to you might be a 6 to me or vice versa. Some only care if she's female and breathing, others want a woman with her own income, hobbies, kegel workout schedule, etc.

Personally I believe the woman I smash is a reflection of myself. I won't continue seeing a woman that isn't continuously improving herself because eventually I'll outgrow her and naturally lose interest.

What are your standards for a woman and why are they what they are?
Simple. I do not want an STD. No baby mama drama or psycho chicks either please..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Personally I believe the woman I smash is a reflection of myself. I won't continue seeing a woman that isn't continuously improving herself because eventually I'll outgrow her and naturally lose interest.
So you’d lose interest in Sharon Stone after Basic Instinct because she wasn’t improving herself and you’d outgrow her?

I don’t know bro, I’d just want to smash the hell out of them for looking young and hot.

What are your standards for a woman and why are they what they are?
Like rando says, as long as they are f able.

Personally I can’t handle weight or kids, and they have to be fertile. Being Asian also gives them an extra 50 pts.

Come on men.
 

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So you’d lose interest in Sharon Stone after Basic Instinct because she wasn’t improving herself and you’d outgrow her?
It's natural reaction to any relationship. Once you outgrow it you no longer find it attractive.

Since you only want something to fuuck why not a hooker?
 

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This is kind of an open ended question that got me thinking. Lots of guys on here say 'just go smash', but a 10 to you might be a 6 to me or vice versa. Some only care if she's female and breathing, others want a woman with her own income, hobbies, kegel workout schedule, etc.

Personally I believe the woman I smash is a reflection of myself. I won't continue seeing a woman that isn't continuously improving herself because eventually I'll outgrow her and naturally lose interest.

What are your standards for a woman and why are they what they are?
having access to not fat chick,not above 45 year old == winner at life
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This is kind of an open ended question that got me thinking. Lots of guys on here say 'just go smash', but a 10 to you might be a 6 to me or vice versa. Some only care if she's female and breathing, others want a woman with her own income, hobbies, kegel workout schedule, etc.

Personally I believe the woman I smash is a reflection of myself. I won't continue seeing a woman that isn't continuously improving herself because eventually I'll outgrow her and naturally lose interest.

What are your standards for a woman and why are they what they are?
Are you talking about standards for a LTR or just to smash a chick?

Obviously standards for the LTR should be set higher, beyond oh she is really hot.
 

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Are you talking about standards for a LTR or just to smash a chick?

Obviously standards for the LTR should be set higher, beyond oh she is really hot.
Both. I'm more interested in what your 'just smash' criteria is and why
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pretty, feminine, submissive, understands personal accountability, and relatively intelligent.
We've fed your criteria into our computer and found one match: An 18-year-old female living in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia.
Haha. It's actually not *that* hard to find. I've had several and the most recent one too...her downfall was she blows up when she gets mad, which was very rare though, but can't have my woman raise her voice and flare her nostrils at me. After calmly warning her twice the third time I put my foot down, put her in her place. She walked and that was it.

But let's break it down:

Pretty: dime a dozen but let's be objective here and say we each have our own standards of what pretty is. For me it's simply someone that I'm physically attracted to. I don't get into the juvenile 8/10 etc stuff.
Feminine: this is what almost all women are at their core whether they know it or not. It's about our frame that makes them want to be that (or not) in our presence. They get their masculine energy when we start to lose our frame. Happens to most of us especially once we become complacent.
Submissive: same exact thing as above...she may not even know it but subconsciously she'll be submissive *to you* if your frame is strong and masculine.
Understands personal accountability: this has to do with maturity and her upbringing, again not hard to find but if you're looking for her a bar huddled around gangbanger and thugs smoking a joint and tattooed head to toe, good luck!
Relatively intelligent: Plenty of women who are very finance savvy, tech savvy, business savvy, sports savvy, DIY savvy...

But also this very much depends on your priorities, most guys here want a quick lay and spin plates, I've said it over and over again generally speaking women who are ok with you spinning plates aren't really LTR material. Exception being they're fresh out of a relationship and you're her rebound or something along those lines.
 

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Since you only want something to fuuck why not a hooker?
You are going in different directions.

If you talking LTR, you have to have something in common, she can’t love camping and skydiving and you love sporting events and music. Won’t last long.

If you are talking just to have sex, in real life, personally she has to be thin in 30s and no kids and obviously attractive. Don’t know why you want personal opinions.

If you are talking fantasy, was Sharon Stone a hooker? I’m sure 99% of the guys on sosuave would fly the Pacific Ocean to sleep with her.

Question is too broad.
 

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You are going in different directions.

If you talking LTR, you have to have something in common, she can’t love camping and skydiving and you love sporting events and music. Won’t last long.

If you are talking just to have sex, in real life, personally she has to be thin in 30s and no kids and obviously attractive. Don’t know why you want personal opinions.

If you are talking fantasy, was Sharon Stone a hooker? I’m sure 99% of the guys on sosuave would fly the Pacific Ocean to sleep with her.

Question is too broad.
How more specific can the question get? And why do you have 'just smash' criteria and a LTR criteria? That's so backasswards. You either hold yourself to a high standard or you don't. I'm asking what that standard is and why, simple. For you I guess you need something in common, great, thanks for your input.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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