"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The right approach
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How old are you? How old is she? And how long was the relationship?
Meh..... not sure if the 2 scenarios are all that similar. I was never needy and insecure.
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powersize
Senior Don Juan
Both 25. Man it was only 2 months and 5 months NC since she dumped me. And every fking time when I bump into her i with her to disappear from my city, just do not remind myself the crap i have experienced with her.
That’s nothing. Move on mentally. @Spaz see how it’s not the same at all?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Act as if she doesn't exist. Never address her or acknowledge her presence. If she attempts to speak to you ignore her.
Different scenarios but responded with the same spirit.
OP now you should go read threads by @daproest1
Enjoy exploring the thoughts of ur spiritual twin.
You can’t help yourself can you lol fack.
Na man at 25 after 2 months I wouldn’t care. I’ve had FLINGS last longer than 2 months