"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dimepiece gf wants expensive gift

captain55

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My gf wants a $900 gift for her birthday. I make good money but I’m not rich by any means and I’m only in my 20’s.

I told myself this year it’s time to get ahead and no more spending on women. She’s never used me for anything in the year we have dated so I can’t say she’s a gold digger.

I live in La so that is difficult...the women here are spoiled and she is used to dating rich guys with more money than me. She’s inviting me to a club Saturday with all her hot friends so I’ll get free bottle service and everything which is a plus I guess.

I personally would much rather get her tickets to Paris or bora bora with me at least she’s with me for that. I would rather spend my hard earned money on that than some stupid gift.

What do I do here?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GrowingPains

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$900 on a gift... for a girl you dated for 1 year... Isn't that kind of dollar amount reaching into wedding ring territory?

I'm sure she has $900. Let her buy it. Give her your time.

I told myself this year it’s time to get ahead and no more spending on women.
Are you a man of your word?
 

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Explain your financial goals to her and let her know a $900 present isn't inline with those goals. If she pitches a fit, you'll know where you stand with her
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Has SHE ever bought YOU a $900 gift before? If so then I’d say buy it, if not then hell no.
 

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My gf wants a $900 gift for her birthday. I make good money but I’m not rich by any means and I’m only in my 20’s.

I told myself this year it’s time to get ahead and no more spending on women. She’s never used me for anything in the year we have dated so I can’t say she’s a gold digger.

I live in La so that is difficult...the women here are spoiled and she is used to dating rich guys with more money than me. She’s inviting me to a club Saturday with all her hot friends so I’ll get free bottle service and everything which is a plus I guess.

I personally would much rather get her tickets to Paris or bora bora with me at least she’s with me for that. I would rather spend my hard earned money on that than some stupid gift.

What do I do here?
Are you fvcking her? $900 gift is too much unless its wife or fiancee. I dont advise a sugar daddy position. Gift women who gift you. So probably its not a good idea. If your fvcking her get a cheap lengerie or underwear from adoreme.com or Victoria Secret. Manage your giving.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agree that you should only gift is she’s gifting you. Then fact she’s asking for a gift like that rather than you just treating her of your own accord (how it should be) means she’s taking you for a ride and doesn’t respect you much.

I’m 30, I’ve never bought any man woman or child a gift over £200 and I really don’t intend to until I get married. I’ve seen a guy buy my friend a Gucci scarf and a 42” TV and he hasn’t even smashed her. I smashed her a few months ago and she’s just bought me dinner on Friday.

Your money is for obtaining assets and setting your children up with a good future, not Louis Vuitton handbags for some wh0re you won’t know in 2 years time.
 

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Lmao...why is this even a question? Are you wanting to take the place of Beta Bux?
 

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Big eye roll.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desperation drives a man to do stupid things.

And if you do gift it to her, you're just sealed ur fate as a garbage that's about to be dumped in the trash.

If I were you, I'll tell her off and then I'll qualify her back; since there's a ton of young sexy beautiful women out there, what makes you so special that makes me want you ?
 

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Stop tricking. You hand your power and thus your attraction, c0ck and balls. Dont do it.
 

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When I was in a relationship 2 yrs ago all I got her was $11 roses for her birthday. I'm in Los Angeles too.
No Vajayjay is worth $900.
$900 should be spent on YOU ALONE!
Let's be honest here. You don't fee like you can get another woman to give you sex like she does. So you feel like you have to secure the sex and get her the $900 gift...
Take her out to dinner. If she fusses about that dump her.
But we all know you'll end up getting her the $900 gift. SMFH
 

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You can get 50 roses from Costco, delivered for under $50. Go that route. 50 roses is romantically overwhelming for a woman. Hit up the dollar store for a card $1, balloons $1each, and vases $1 each
 

mrgoodstuff

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When I was in a relationship 2 yrs ago all I got her was $11 roses for her birthday. I'm in Los Angeles too.
No Vajayjay is worth $900.
$900 should be spent on YOU ALONE!
Let's be honest here. You don't fee like you can get another woman to give you sex like she does. So you feel like you have to secure the sex and get her the $900 gift...
Take her out to dinner. If she fusses about that dump her.
But we all know you'll end up getting her the $900 gift. SMFH
Like a SIMP. Its not smart
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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