Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What counts as an approach though? You mean 300 successful approaches where you ask for the order and the gal either takes you or rejects you, or literally 300 approaches, where you are fumbling at even making small-talk or gulping a hello, but then get better and more confident at this until you get into a level of successful approach attempts (regardless of outcome).Interesting hot take. The guest on Face_LMS thinks the average guy needs to approach 300 women to get 1 lay. Not with a hot girl, but with any girl. What's your experience with cold approaching? Is he right?
If this is true, then this sounds better. The OP said "anyone". A hot young girl at the end of the day is a worthy reward, if you are ugly facially, (even better if you are older). At least it means you didn't ware out and started settling for anyone out of desperation.Amazing. A year or so ago, I worked out my ratio to be roughly 250 approaches per to lay a 'hot', young girl(night game. UK. Read lots of game. Kinda ugly facially)
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You’ve approached 20 women in your entire life?If this is the case the human race would have died out. I can tell you i have maybe cold approached 20 women in my life and banged 2 of them with 1of them becoming a long term GF...
This is obviously BS and I doubt I did anything that extraordinary on my approaches.
That's better than Tom Torrerro and the RSD boys! You should be a pro!300=1? damn I just feel handsome now, I can get 1 after 20-30 on my worse days
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Aha! As I suspected! Yeah. that makes sense. I can bang pretty much every girl who is giving me massive IOI's. (although that only happens like once per year)If you are average looking and have any kind of situational awareness it shouldn’t take more than 20. I’m better looking than average, to be fair, but at least half my approaches are received warmly. Of that, 20% of the time we have chemistry. If we have chemistry its almost a guarantee lay. This is because I go after girls I catch eyeing me.
That and subconsciously sending out signals to you.This is because I go after girls I catch eyeing me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.