Yes, u r an Expressive.So I am an Expressive according to you? Or something else?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yes, u r an Expressive.So I am an Expressive according to you? Or something else?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
As expected from an intellectual.I understand what you wrote but not the graph itself. Move toward more passivity, lower dominance, higher EQ? But still, very interesting.
Hahaha@Spaz I have no clue what you wrote or how your charts work, I’ve tried.
EQ?
A?
B?
C?
D?
Is it something about boobs?
Why does it look like you was stonned when you wrote this?
I'm 101% certain @biblebelt is an Expressive.Let me get this straight Biblebelt who s hobby is attracting young Daddy issue girls 4 Japanese rope bondage sessions he s a passive?
As for me I freely confess my weaknesses are probably introversion and EQ. Been working on those a while not easy to fight your nature. So how am I expressive.
I remember Myers Briggs was scientifically studied and found to have little correlation. Zodiac has been disproven many times.
Great thread I'm not throwing rocks.
Spaz if you ve got some evidence to back your theories I would honestly be really interested.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hahahabtw if the order follows that would mean i'm the motivational?
It doesn't change my conclusion nor will it negate my narratives here.@Spaz I think it would help to further explain more traits/characteristics of an expressive personality as well as the other categories.
Feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but this type of personality assessment is used in business/sales? Seems very similar to what you have posted.
https://blog.bretthard.in/the-four-different-personality-types-9366bfefde16
https://www.retaildoc.com/blog/personality-test-are-you-a-driver-expressive-analytical-or-amiable
Most people are never 100% in any single category. I'm expressive(extroverted, little fear, somewhat big personality, creative, can get people to do what i want easily) as you picked up on, but I also have an analytical side(thinker, good listener, don't talk too much, use data to drive decision making, focused, driven, organized, self motivated, engineering mind, task oriented) which tempers some of those more emotional traits that you typically see in artists and actors. Professions that involve a technical aspect along with working with people is a good fit for me. Examples: Technical Sales, Project Development, Project Manager.
I see you list PUA's as being expressive. I certainly have little issues seducing women once I get them around me. I will use a little flash, style, charm, and boldness to my advantage.
Perhaps this info further confirms or changes your conclusion?
Good Stuff!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
True, good but not great. Natural at nothing.It doesn't change my conclusion nor will it negate my narratives here.
If u r what you say then u r straddling partially within the The Motivator quadrant with ur dominant traits firmly inside The Expressive.
Those skills are what you're learned and picked up on but it's not ur natural skill set hence you won't be really great at it - and that cannot be denied no matter how you wish it so.
You'll never be as great an engineer that The Mystery man is capable off nor will you be as great an analyst (numbers) as The Intellectual is capable off - you can be good in those fields but never near those predisposed towards it, I think you know this to be so and need me to confirm it.
Oh that's where many mistake an Expressive, u r a natural and will be great at it at ur given natural tendencies.True, good but not great. Natural at nothing.
I don't think anyone can achieve 0 dominance, perhaps near to it.I’m expressive, but I can’t do 0 dominance it’s not and never has been me. I’m quite a fiery character too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Can't beat the Italians at their game.Yes. Salieri vs. Mozart.
Yes u r an intellectual.I'm sure I must be Intellectual.
I could see that if I fully embraced my tendencies, I might be more content (I'd be in my comfort zone) and could excel in those areas. But the problem I see there is that I have always had to battle my weaknesses and shore them up, otherwise in real life they end up hampering me too much.
No dominance at all?I don't think anyone can achieve 0 dominance, perhaps near to it.
Once near 0 dominance, a man within ur quadrant has attained almost God like powers.
What is power ?
Part of ur gifts includes acting out a certain role - as in being dominant much like an actor portrays in the movies.No dominance at all?
Are we talking with women? I fluctuate between dominant and chill, best relationships I’ve had are once I’ve established dominance early.
Men: when I assert dominance I’m called aggressive, defensive, loose canon.
My natural state is passive and calm, I’ve only established an aggressive dominant nature with other men due to situations growing up (see kindness for weakness). I’m naturally happy go lucky, sensitive, peaceful, emotional, empathic... it’s the people I encounter that force me to go to the other side, because I refuse to be taken for a punk in any shape or form.
You’re right. It’s not natural to me. Idealistically everyone would be on my wave length, but people (see men) are constantly testing, pushing boundaries. Am I to accept a lower place? Never. I’m worth the same as any man, this will never change. I’m happy escalate a situation to confrontation because sleeping at night thinking “I’ve been wronged” got boring 10 years ago.
Assuming you are correct (and I have no reason to believe you aren't), I had to fight for it. I had to fight my own tendencies to get to the border of the expressives.Fortunately for you, you're manage to stay at the border of the expressives.
Many of ur breathens has aspired to be there and been there but swung the opposite direction towards the border with the mystery man - that's where all the incels, mgtow and fringe groups congregate.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.