She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
yea well your "grown" ass better address me specifically if you're talking to me. I only see one other post besides mine after yours, so quote me or stfu spazLooks like you boys have a lot of catching up to do...
Grown a$$ men with boy-like mentalities.
Look dude, you want to hang out with a bunch of chicks who are eyeball f*cking your friends while you are around and doing God knows what with them when you're not, by all means, go for it. If she's comfortable enough with you to come right out and say it, definite sign of lack of respect. If there's no respect, you can dam well guarantee she's not trustworthy. She's not worth your time, resources and investment at any level. She wants to just come over and f*ck a couple of times a week? Sure, wrap it and go for it. She wants a serious commitment from you? You need to be committed if you would actually entertain doing so.Looks like you boys have a lot of catching up to do...
Grown a$$ men with boy-like mentalities.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Oh. So our forum member is actually too Alpha. I know it blows mens minds some womens preference is a softer look and feel.I kind of left out some detail which kind of turns the story a bit as I re read my post. She was basically saying her friend is into the artsy nerdy type of guys and she said my friend is more of her type of guy. Not sure if this changes much
Sarcasm ? Or being seriousOh. So our forum member is actually too Alpha. I know it blows mens minds some womens preference is a softer look and feel.
Serious. Females have different preferences.Sarcasm ? Or being serious
Sounds like nothing to worry about thenSerious. Females have different preferences.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's a nice way to make yourself sound smart spaz... but in actuality, you made a subliminal post addressing nobody, that contributed NOTHING to the ongoing discussion that was going on in this threadWhen I posted without quoting a particular person that means it's targeted at everyone who's acting as if they're afflicted with obsessive compulsive disorder.
And then 2 showed up to confirmed my suspicion.
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Wrong.That's a nice way to make yourself sound smart spaz... but in actuality, you made a subliminal post addressing nobody, that contributed NOTHING to the ongoing discussion that was going on this thread
Yup, I'm sure I'll have to get on your ass again in the future. So I'm glad I have the green lightWrong.
But u hv my permission to be obsess with what I posted here and analyse it.
Spaz can be magnanimous.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It’s been a long distance relationship up until like 2 months ago, she moved across country to live with me. It’s been a committed serious relationship. It’s easy to leave out details with limited space here.First off, they're not in a serious enough relationship to be able to say things like that and it not cause a stir. I could understand if they were in a multiple year, non long distance relationship. There would be some security. I'm viewing this as something that's just starting off since she just moved close to him. That is NOT how you want to start off a relationship.
Her not wanting to hook your friend up with her friend screams "I don't want to ruin the opportunity of me hooking up with him since I don't want to screw my friend over when I decide to suck his ****."
1st pick a number, there's a long waiting line.Yup, I'm sure I'll have to get on your ass again in the future. So I'm glad I have the green light
That’s not important, it is trivial. What important is how she moved. She suggested that she move, or you suggested that she move. On the other hand, how are you qualified to know who suggested what.she moved across country to live with me
Ranger told us you together went to tailand and fcked trannies. How’s double barrel possible in one ass?My fanboys r always eager beavers...
Ahaha... now I get why he annoys me. He's always speaking to people like you're one of his hos, instead of a man. Trying to play mind games instead of having a direct conversation with you@17 shots spaz is the pimp, you should listen, I do
I get it, you want to sound like you are deep, soulful and have lots of confucius like wisdom. you expose yourself though, with the thinly veiled barbs and immature jabs at people. people might actually have a different idea, complimentary idea, something to add or flat-out disagree with you. doesn't make either party better or more right, it's simply a discussion. perhaps you might try dropping the childish behavior if you want people to think of you in a zen kind of way. only a suggestion though, one brother trying to help another out.When I posted without quoting a particular person that means it's targeted at everyone who's acting as if they're afflicted with obsessive compulsive disorder.
And then 2 showed up to confirmed my suspicion.
Congratulations boys.
Now go get some professional help.
OP, as for you, be calm and be cool, do not act on an assumption, sure she said something that's distasteful and most definitely without class but with women, in almost all cases it's always best to see how they act rather then what they say to you.
Some can say I love you and yet cleverly cheat behind ur back, should you take her words at face value or see how she acts around you ?
Use wisdom 1st.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.