"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do women ever stop testing their man?

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No you’re right and I understand that. I honestly don’t know why I give some girls the benefit of the doubt because when I have it’s bitten me in the ass. I guess I just go in thinking “well if I can’t trust her from the start then why am I sitting here across from her wasting my time?”. I just get tired mentally of always having to be sharp and in frame. Damn it’s a lot of work and I know with practice it becomes reactionary rather than a forced behavior but still, what a pain in the ass. I think my don’t care attitude has attracted me a lot of women but what they don’t realize is they’ve beaten me down to where I have this don’t care attitude.
More corrupt females than males because their coddled and protected.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You dont have to have a laser sharp frame. Have a few tests to determine the selfish and greedy.
 

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I do and I admit it. What I have a hard time getting passed is I was raised that your word was bond. You broke your word and your reputation was ****. You were ruined. That’s the hard thing I have to get over. In my business your word is your bond, you say you’ll be there such and such time and will do such and such and you better keep it or you’ll go broke.
Ahh the trap of the young; that is, thinking that sayings are universal and apply to all parties in all situations at all times. As you get older, you begin to recognize nuances in sayings and words, and employ those distinctions which best serve you.

Your word is your bond is an excellent way to conduct yourself in business as it serves you, your reputation, and your clients. It permits clients to trust you and send you referrals. In business only, I conduct myself in such a manner.

However, with women, in some cases, it can and will work against you as it makes you predictable. To be predictable, to give her certainty is anti-attraction, which serves neither you nor her.

Commit to those actions which best serve you and the other party--shamelessly and unapologetically too.
 

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You dont have to have a laser sharp frame. Have a few tests to determine the selfish and greedy.
I always fail the second test. Well not always but that’s the test I usually fail. Neber the first one and only reason I fail the 3rd is because I didn’t recorgnize the 2nd. I have a hard time recognizing the second test for some reason.
 

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Ahh the trap of the young; that is, thinking that sayings are universal and apply to all parties in all situations at all times. As you get older, you begin to recognize nuances in sayings and words, and employ those distinctions which best serve you.

Your word is your bond is an excellent way to conduct yourself in business as it serves you, your reputation, and your clients. It permits clients to trust you and send you referrals. In business only, I conduct myself in such a manner.

However, with women, in some cases, it can and will work against you as it makes you predictable. To be predictable, to give her certainty is anti-attraction, which serves neither you nor her.

Commit to those actions which best serve you and the other party--shamelessly and unapologetically too.
Some of us learned the hard way you cannt be 100% reliable to MOST women. Its unattractive. Man has some selfish things he does and a good percentage of time he doesnt even hear what shes saying. Yes being perfectly reliable is unattractive to most women and they dont deserve it anyway.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ahh the trap of the young; that is, thinking that sayings are universal and apply to all parties in all situations at all times. As you get older, you begin to recognize nuances in sayings and words, and employ those distinctions which best serve you.

Your word is your bond is an excellent way to conduct yourself in business as it serves you, your reputation, and your clients. It permits clients to trust you and send you referrals. In business only, I conduct myself in such a manner.

However, with women, in some cases, it can and will work against you as it makes you predictable. To be predictable, to give her certainty is anti-attraction, which serves neither you nor her.

Commit to those actions which best serve you and the other party--shamelessly and unapologetically too.
You’re exactly right. I think I do miss my window of displaying I’ll walk away and it gets me in trouble. However, women underestimate me because when I’m done with you, I’m ****ing done. Forever. I’ve never changed that for anyone. The moment you stick me in the friend zone or give me the “I’ll let you know” or try to get rid of me I’m gone. They are shocked by this because they never saw this behavior from me and when they do try to come back later I ignore them. I want to blow up and tell them to F off but that would solve nothing and I know ignoring them works. When I’m done I’m really done, I won’t change my mind in a week or a month or 2 years.
 

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Some of us learned the hard way you cannt be 100% reliable to MOST women. Its unattractive. Man has some selfish things he does and a good percentage of time he doesnt even hear what shes saying. Yes being perfectly reliable is unattractive to most women and they dont deserve it anyway.
What do you mean being reliable? How are some ways not to be reliable?
 

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What do you mean being reliable? How are some ways not to be reliable?
Be actually so busy and doing what you like to do that you have no time for them. The internet fostered this attention serving and consumer environment.
 

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Be actually so busy and doing what you like to do that you have no time for them. The internet fostered this attention serving and consumer environment.
Well I thought I was doing that because I work 50 hours a week and she knows I’m busy. Plus we never hung out more than 2 times a week, mostly it was just once a week.
 

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Well I thought I was doing that because I work 50 hours a week and she knows I’m busy. Plus we never hung out more than 2 times a week, mostly it was just once a week.
Females these days are hunters. Let her azz pursue.

If she doesnt add value drop her.

Many are leeches.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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