Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Find more.I got the numbers, I even had about 4 girls agree to meet but they all went ghost and now I have no plates.
When all the plates are spinning it feels good like one of them has to go for you. Then when none of them do it kinda sucks.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
@Murkserious how?It's not a plate if you haven't had sex.
I lost a plate so I'm down to 3.
@sosousage ugh depends on the person I guess.fatties are more economical choice
One of them was fat. I'm not finding fat chicks to be any easier. If anything they are more work. More judgemental, more frigid. I don't get it. Why do 4s and 5s go around rejecting guys as if they are 8s and 9s?
On a $ invested per pound basis.fatties are more economical choice
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sounds like a typical Friday night. Just keep approaching.I got the numbers, I even had about 4 girls agree to meet but they all went ghost and now I have no plates.
When all the plates are spinning it feels good like one of them has to go for you. Then when none of them do it kinda sucks.
Lul >says hello to girlYou didn't have any plates because you weren't sleeping with them.
How what
how are you this masculine alpha maleHow what
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I thought we agreed not to address each other. Work on yourself don’t worry about me.how are you this masculine alpha male