"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ouch that hurts

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You wanna know how ''deep'' she is?

Look at her feets
 

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its the motion of the ocean.....
Is there really a skill to the actual penetration, though?
I always have 'sex talk' with girls I've banged, and it sounds like all guys basically bang teh same when it comes to the actual penetration.
The only difference in how it feels to her depends on how big his junk is.

If you read womens posts on reddit, they kind of confirm this. When it comes to being 'good in bed' they NEVER mention the way he actuallly bangs her in terms of penetration. 'motion of the ocean' etc. It's always weird things like eye contact and dominance or about how he eats *****.

Like, we can't make our ****s spin around like helicoptors, can we. In-out, at different speeds and angles (based on position) It's pretty simple stuff!! I'm not sure 'skill' or being good in bed is even a thing when it comes to actual penetration lol
 

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Is there really a skill to the actual penetration, though?
I always have 'sex talk' with girls I've banged, and it sounds like all guys basically bang teh same when it comes to the actual penetration.
The only difference in how it feels to her depends on how big his junk is.

If you read womens posts on reddit, they kind of confirm this. When it comes to being 'good in bed' they NEVER mention the way he actuallly bangs her in terms of penetration. 'motion of the ocean' etc. It's always weird things like eye contact and dominance or about how he eats *****.

Like, we can't make our ****s spin around like helicoptors, can we. In-out, at different speeds and angles (based on position) It's pretty simple stuff!! I'm not sure 'skill' or being good in bed is even a thing when it comes to actual penetration lol
You said it yourself, t's the entirety of the act. There will always be women who just want to get banged, and there will always be men who arent well skilled with their c0ck - like literally, just bad lays, havent learned any technique, etc. Those are the basic definitions of 'motion of the ocean'

However, then you take it all up a notch, or two, or three and you start adding foreplay, during play, how connected you feel to him, eye contact, verbal cues and/or responding to instruction, etc, etc, etc. All of that is included in the experience, in the 'motion'.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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there will always be men who arent well skilled with their c0ck - like literally, just bad lays, havent learned any technique, etc.
I guess i'm struggling too imagine this. I feel like there's zero skill/technique involved in actual banging (not talking about eye contact, creating connection, foreplay, dominance etc)
 

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I guess i'm struggling too imagine this. I feel like there's zero skill/technique involved in actual banging (not talking about eye contact, creating connection, foreplay, dominance etc)
all jack hammer, no bueno
finishing without worrying about her, no bueno
any technique that he chases to please him first, without worrying about her, no bueno
Imagine seeing a dude dancing with the worst dance moves on the dance floor, then imagine that same dude being awkward like that in bed. It happens!

It's definitely a good sign you cant imagine what it means to have poor technique in bed!
 

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all jack hammer, no bueno
finishing without worrying about her, no bueno
any technique that he chases to please him first, without worrying about her, no bueno
Imagine seeing a dude dancing with the worst dance moves on the dance floor, then imagine that same dude being awkward like that in bed. It happens!

It's definitely a good sign you cant imagine what it means to have poor technique in bed!
Its about the connection, the lust, the energy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I guess i'm struggling too imagine this. I feel like there's zero skill/technique involved in actual banging (not talking about eye contact, creating connection, foreplay, dominance etc)
Not everyone woman likes the same thing obviously. I've had some women tell me I've been their best and some who didnt comment anything. It comes down to the act as a whole.
 
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