"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Am I an orbiter or not gaming her correctly?

Knight of Roses

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Recently added an ex-girlfriend onto my plate rotation. My game has significantly improved since she broke up with me 6 months ago. However, for reasons I cannot explain, I just subconsciously can't game her the same way I am gaming other girls.

While with other plates I only contact them during times where I want to hang out, (i.e. I'll text to set up plans), I find myself attempting to play more mind games with this ex. I feel that given our history, I am entitled to more of her attention and hence she should be reaching out to me, after all, it was her that reached out to me 4 months after no contact to re-initiate things.

Am I an orbiter in her world or should I just forgo those feelings and game her like I do rest of my plates?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Since you were together and she knows you in some degree, don't employ any game, just set up opportunities for sex to happen on your terms.
Otherwise yes, you are only one of her orbiters.
 

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This is the emotional confusion that happens when you decide to pick up garbage food and taste it again.
 

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Just contact her less then she contacts you, care less, see other girls more, fvck her good and selfishly when you get the chance. No going down on her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just contact her less then she contacts you, care less, see other girls more, fvck her good and selfishly when you get the chance. No going down on her.
What's your reason for not going down on her? I know some women are fvcked In the head and you can't treat them too good. I was wondering your reason .
 

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What's your reason for not going down on her? I know some women are fvcked In the head and you can't treat them too good. I was wondering your reason .
Because it sounds like she's playing a game here, definitely seeing other guy/s, I would not get pleasure going down on an ex gf that I'm now plating who is seeing other guys.

You can already see OP is gonna lose this game, I was just trying to help him. Why would you want to give selfless pleasure to this ex? I personally would not bother even plating her.
 

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Because it sounds like she's playing a game here, definitely seeing other guy/s, I would not get pleasure going down on an ex gf that I'm now plating who is seeing other guys.

You can already see OP is gonna lose this game, I was just trying to help him. Why would you want to give selfless pleasure to this ex? I personally would not bother even plating her.
Your right. That's the game in play .
 

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I think op needs to play this game how it's supposed to be played.
 

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The required game is the same as "AMS" ( Alpha Male Strategies ). He's a bastard but his shyt works.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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All that matters is that she comes when he calls.

That's not chasing. Thats control.

I personally do not want all of my plates chasing me constantly. If they come when I reach out and I don't hear much from them otherwise, I consider it a blessing.
Agree. You should be able to call and figure out when your phvcking in the next couple of hours. It won't be this weekly schedule and squeezing you in a time slot. They will make the time.

It's best if plates prioritize you where you can get it when you want it.
 
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