I mean I told her to her face that when things calm down for her we should catch up and not over a random phone call. She seemed interested.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Am I getting mixed signals or reading too much into it?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
marmel75
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Of course she did. For the same reason women without any interest will give you their number and then ignore you once you try and contact them.
They've learned its easier to just go along with whatever you say in person and then do what they actually want once you arent at a later date.
Pay attention to actions, not words. Words frequently lie. Actions NEVER lie.
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mrgoodstuff
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Trying to raise interest of uninterested women fvcks you up with ALL women. Because that is the type of attention your recieving.... Low interest to rejection. If she's not worried about you why are you worried about her?
marmel75
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And? That basically means "If i have no other options them i guess ill go." Not where you want to be with a woman. Stop wasting your time.
Say it out loud:
"I will not waste time on uninterested women."
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
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Tell her that's okay
RangerMIke
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You are spending way too much time thinking about a chick you haven't even fvcked yet. However.... if you are just trying to learn....
Chicks with BFs and husbands, do this all the time. They are always looking for the next best thing. She thought at some point you might be, but you did something that indicated that the guy she has is better then you... so she is backing off. Chicks in relationships that think they can do better will ALWAYS flirt with other dudes.... they can not help themselves...it's the nature of chicks.
My advice to you would be to tell her to reach out if and when she is single.... then forget about her.
Chicks with BFs and husbands, do this all the time. They are always looking for the next best thing. She thought at some point you might be, but you did something that indicated that the guy she has is better then you... so she is backing off. Chicks in relationships that think they can do better will ALWAYS flirt with other dudes.... they can not help themselves...it's the nature of chicks.
My advice to you would be to tell her to reach out if and when she is single.... then forget about her.
I did forget about her for six months lol...
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mrgoodstuff
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Along with the theme of ss, "have you been fvcking her?".
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Just be careful...she may be viewing you as her go to emotional tampon. If the conversation ever goes to how her boyfriend is being such an jerk etc. or other emotional type conversation she is looking to you for emotional support and not as a potential lover. Or if she won't make a commitment to actually meeting then she probably isn't very interested. Just move on.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
We've met up a couple times before I went no contact. One time was for almost two hrs.
Atom Smasher
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This.
An interested woman will always make it easy for you. She basically paves the way and all you need to do is roll down the road. If she makes it hard, eject.
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Gotcha. What are the conversations about? Is it a ***** session about her life or does she show genuine interest in you?
mrgoodstuff
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Don't ho Chase. Very simple concept that keeps man from wasting his time .
She was asking about me but one of the times we got together was when she dropped that she lived with her bf. But it sounded like she didn't really want to talk about him and immediately asked about me.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.