Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What happens when YOU go back after no contact?

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Anyone ever go back for secs, or just because whatever, after her no contacting you?

Like a stalemate?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Anyone ever go back for secs, or just because whatever, after her no contacting you?

Like a stalemate?
If you have other options why are you asking this question?

If you have no other options, what have you been doing since you've been no contact?

Not a good place to be OP, the purpose of no contact is to walk away permanently and find other women, not to play some childish game.

You have done neither of these apparently so what was the point of no contact again?
 

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I go no contact cuz I want to be alone. I'm going through something personal.

But suppose any dude wants space or is upset, or just bored of the monotony, then he wants that philly again.
 

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"What happens when YOU go back after no contact?"

Typically...you can expect the 'same sh!t, different day'.

Unless the Lord works some kind of miracle, you're back in same bullsh!t.

A good woman is not born, they are made.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So if a good woman is made, how can you make her if you just bounce on them all the time?
 

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So how is she made? By society or her parents or self?
 

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So how is she made? By society or her parents or self?
Mostly involves her childhood upbringing via her parents. It’s the ethical and/or moral base that most of her adult decisions and actions spring from…
If she had a fvcked up childhood don’t expect much from her as an adult unless she has grown past it.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Plus also, I feel like if you can go back and do your guy's thing then who cares.
I mean, you're never really together until you're connecting physically and then you're apart again.
 

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Nothing came out of that text.
Just wanted to share it and hear from my dudes.
You're putting two separate threads together.
1) I'm just contemplating theories.
2) I'm still ghost mode

But isn't the jerk blowing loads in her azz that we tell dudes that, that's what's going on when hes not getting her...isn't that jerk the dude that comes and goes as he pleases?
 
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