Ok so I have a girl I would boink from time to time and she's a pretty girl but after getting tired of dealing with her i just pretty much ghosted her as far as trying to have sex. Any creative ways to get back to banging her besides the hey stranger text? I must mention I work with her.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Should I bring back an old plate?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Murk
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You can try what this girl did to me at the weekend. The old - accidental dial over whatsapp then a "sorry accident" message. I didn't believe her but still played along with a "hello stranger, have you calmed down now?" message.
She is now primed to come over to my place when we are both bored (she's a weekday bang).
She is now primed to come over to my place when we are both bored (she's a weekday bang).
greatsnake
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Are you out of options?
No reason to deal with a plate that brings drama into your life.
No reason to deal with a plate that brings drama into your life.
Honestly it's cause she pretty as hell and I also wanna make it sex and that's all.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Knight of Roses
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Don't listen to Spidah, he's far sexier and has more plates than us mortals. If you approach it with either a take it or leave it, you won't get far. You've lost a majority of attraction and rapport that you built previously. Think of some hobby or interest she has, make up a witty and hilarious text and toss it out. End it with confident humor, "I got a free evening, want to join for happy hour? I promise you drinks with me are more fun than spending an hour with your boyfriend". - Confident Humor.
This is a scarcity mindset.
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LOL, he's got other plates, no harm in messing around and attempting to game an old one.