Ok so I have a girl I would boink from time to time and she's a pretty girl but after getting tired of dealing with her i just pretty much ghosted her as far as trying to have sex. Any creative ways to get back to banging her besides the hey stranger text? I must mention I work with her.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Should I bring back an old plate?
- Thread starter Randzilla
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Murk
Master Don Juan
You can try what this girl did to me at the weekend. The old - accidental dial over whatsapp then a "sorry accident" message. I didn't believe her but still played along with a "hello stranger, have you calmed down now?" message.
She is now primed to come over to my place when we are both bored (she's a weekday bang).
She is now primed to come over to my place when we are both bored (she's a weekday bang).
greatsnake
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Are you out of options?
No reason to deal with a plate that brings drama into your life.
No reason to deal with a plate that brings drama into your life.
Honestly it's cause she pretty as hell and I also wanna make it sex and that's all.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Knight of Roses
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Don't listen to Spidah, he's far sexier and has more plates than us mortals. If you approach it with either a take it or leave it, you won't get far. You've lost a majority of attraction and rapport that you built previously. Think of some hobby or interest she has, make up a witty and hilarious text and toss it out. End it with confident humor, "I got a free evening, want to join for happy hour? I promise you drinks with me are more fun than spending an hour with your boyfriend". - Confident Humor.
This is a scarcity mindset.
Knight of Roses
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LOL, he's got other plates, no harm in messing around and attempting to game an old one.