"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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should I delete her off of social media.

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ok chick I dated for awhile went cold on me about a month and a half back. not completely cold but just said she had no time started turning more into a bi!ch etc. I was like ok maybe she is busy and me and her just kinda fizzled out. thing is I really liked this chick so i caight feelings. yesterday on her Snapchat story I see her with her ex so I'm 99.9% sure that's why she went cold on me. I'm not said or depressed just pissed. don't even wanna see it. should I delete her off all forms of social media? or just suck it up and not give a fvck.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why do people post sh!t like this? Do whatever you want to.
 
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Ryan Adams said:
asking for advice
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You didnt do anything with the solid advice that you were given before. We told you there was someone else in the picture and you didnt want to hear it.

Use fvcking common sense. Unless you want to see her sticking her tongue down her ex's throat, delete the b!tch off social media, block her number and stop making threads about her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What he said!
 
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Ryan Adams said:
ok chick I dated for awhile went cold on me about a month and a half back. not completely cold but just said she had no time started turning more into a bi!ch etc. I was like ok maybe she is busy and me and her just kinda fizzled out. thing is I really liked this chick so i caight feelings. yesterday on her Snapchat story I see her with her ex so I'm 99.9% sure that's why she went cold on me. I'm not said or depressed just pissed. don't even wanna see it. should I delete her off all forms of social media? or just suck it up and not give a fvck.
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You already know the answer to this. Yes. Delete her and move on

When they suddenly go cold there is always another dog in the yard. Go date other women.
 
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I know im an idiot lesson learned!
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I would say that every guy on this forum has learned a hard lesson or two. Just make sure you really understand where you went wrong with this woman, which I would assume neediness to be a culprit, and dont make the same mistake twice.

You are to lead a woman physically. You are to follow a woman emotionally once they have taken the emotional hook that you have planted. You are not to over invest emotionally and then get walked on.

Women are funny creatures. Hook them emotionally and physically and they will crave you and literally anything will remind them of you.

Dont over pursue, dont be needy/clingy/desperate or insecure. Be the opposite.

Create the physical/sexual aspect with the woman and let her create the emotional aspects. Thats how you hook them and not run them offm while keeping them craving for more of you.
 
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very very solid advice. I just didn't know if deleting her made me seem like I was clingy in a weird way? like she'll see it and think whybthe fvck did he delete me
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ryan Adams said:
very very solid advice. I just didn't know if deleting her made me seem like I was clingy in a weird way? like she'll see it and think whybthe fvck did he delete me
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What she thinks should no longer matter.
 
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