"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Helping a "woman" friend, what advice to give to comfort her. Called me 10pm crying because of a guy

amaterasu

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Hi DJs,

I'm kinda bit sleepy now, so I wasn't really sure about the advices I gave her on how to deal with her heart break from a guy who she currently dated since February 2017.

She's hurting right now because the guy doesn't have any straight answer to her whether they have a commitment/relationship.

The guy said something really offensive and was the cause of calling me late in the evening.

She invested emotions, effort, time etc...

The main reason why she's crying.

How do you help a woman friend having a situation like this?

I would love to hear your advices and opinions too :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lizardking82

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First of all, you help a woman friend by not being her friend at all. You help her by being an acquintance, someone she knows. You are probably kinda bored with her drama already and the reason why that is so is because you either don't like her and don't feel attraction or you are subconsciously upset she is crying over some other dude and not blowing your pipe.

Solution: stop having female friends, 99,9% of them are not even worth it. But I have a gut feeling you wanna bang this chick, just don't have the courage to go for it.
 

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First of all, you help a woman friend by not being her friend at all. You help her by being an acquintance, someone she knows. You are probably kinda bored with her drama already and the reason why that is so is because you either don't like her and don't feel attraction or you are subconsciously upset she is crying over some other dude and not blowing your pipe.

Solution: stop having female friends, 99,9% of them are not even worth it. But I have a gut feeling you wanna bang this chick, just don't have the courage to go for it.
Wrong.

Really? are you even a human being?
 

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Take this schitt to Loveshack.com.

Come On Moderators, your forum is headed straight to Faggotville.

Time to clean things up.
You are a Beta. Period.

True DJs help one another no matter what the situation is.

Dj are all positive, and you're not.

Beta DJs like you should be instantly kicked out from this forum.

Unless the Moderators here are totally blind determining what good and bad is.

Simple.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are a Beta. Period.

True DJs help one another no matter what the situation is.

Dj are all positive, and you're not.

Beta DJs like you should be instantly kicked out from this forum.

Unless the Moderators here are totally blind determining what good and bad is.

Simple.
Someone who worries how to console his female friend is calling us beta? LOL this was fun. You're way too gone, my man
 

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Someone who worries how to console his female friend is calling us beta? LOL this was fun. You're way too gone, my man
Really? you call yourself a Dj and doesn't have female friends?

you are just a burned up person, beta.

You better check out the articles about being a true dj on the forum first before you come back and post another reply here.

If you're not helping then don't obviously post something that would not contribute something GOOD TO THIS FORUM.
 

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You are a Beta. Period.

True DJs help one another no matter what the situation is.

Dj are all positive, and you're not.

Beta DJs like you should be instantly kicked out from this forum.

Unless the Moderators here are totally blind determining what good and bad is.

Simple.
he is not the one with a name of a japanese goddess

problem one if she is not the kind of girl you can call at night to help you or give you a ride then you are ****ed with everything the dude you are so angry about is right, you are a weakling

and only reason I see this is you want to nail her but lack courage to do so, so you have 2 paths to choose, stay there consoling her about everything fill her need for male atencion without you getting nothing in return, or man up stop caring about her and move on,

if is not going out getting drunk and her paying for her drinks the very least you should not even remember she ever existed even less take your phone in the middle of night
 

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These kind of people come here to get confirmations of their twisted ideas, not learn and grow. You tell them the truth, they get angry LOL
 

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he is not the one with a name of a japanese goddess

problem one if she is not the kind of girl you can call at night to help you or give you a ride then you are ****ed with everything the dude you are so angry about is right, you are a weakling

and only reason I see this is you want to nail her but lack courage to do so, so you have 2 paths to choose, stay there consoling her about everything fill her need for male atencion without you getting nothing in return, or man up stop caring about her and move on,

if is not going out getting drunk and her paying for her drinks the very least you should not even remember she ever existed even less take your phone in the middle of night
I have no intention to have sex with her.

She is a one of my precious HUMAN BEING FRIEND.

I would like to say this again and see if you all people can understand this.

SHE IS MY FRIEND.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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These kind of people come here to get confirmations of their twisted ideas, not learn and grow. You tell them the truth, they get angry LOL
Hey man, answer this question.

One of the members here on this forum is a woman, and she's my friend too.

So are you saying that she's WORTHLESS?

So where is the truth there?
 

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Hey man, answer this question.

One of the members here on this forum is a woman, and she's my friend too.

So are you saying that she's WORTHLESS?
No, I am saying you probably wanna bang her LOL
 

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No, I am saying you probably wanna bang her LOL
That's not what you have said a while ago.

You said that we should not have female friends because 99.99% are not worth it.

What kind of advice is that?

You teach people not to have female friends, go ahead and tell that to your kids. Let's see what will happen.
 

doctor1996

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Hi DJs,

I'm kinda bit sleepy now, so I wasn't really sure about the advices I gave her on how to deal with her heart break from a guy who she currently dated since February 2017.

She's hurting right now because the guy doesn't have any straight answer to her whether they have a commitment/relationship.

The guy said something really offensive and was the cause of calling me late in the evening.

She invested emotions, effort, time etc...

The main reason why she's crying.

How do you help a woman friend having a situation like this?

I would love to hear your advices and opinions too :)
When this happens, from what I've read in the DJBible, all you have to do is listen. Don't be a beta,

"There, there sweetheart! He doesn't know what an amazing girl you are!" If you did this you're a beta

but I feel like you are beta
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Masculinity

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Hi DJs,

I'm kinda bit sleepy now, so I wasn't really sure about the advices I gave her on how to deal with her heart break from a guy who she currently dated since February 2017.

She's hurting right now because the guy doesn't have any straight answer to her whether they have a commitment/relationship.

The guy said something really offensive and was the cause of calling me late in the evening.

She invested emotions, effort, time etc...

The main reason why she's crying.

How do you help a woman friend having a situation like this?

I would love to hear your advices and opinions too :)
You're deep in the friend zone.
 

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Why would you ever put yourself in this situatuin? Tell her to go call a woman friend.
This is why its a bad idea to be friends with women.
 

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Tell her if she is not getting what she wants she should go find someone that will. If he doesn't want to be exclusive, then she should start fvcking other guys... starting with you right now... since she woke you up.
Best advice so far.
 

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You are clueless OP......... the only guy that is doing it right in this situation is the dude she is crying over you are just a hapless orbiter.
 

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Buy her a dozen roses and write her a poem. Works like a charm.

Dont forget the box of expensive chocolates and big teddy bear. She will forget about him and start sucking new c0cks in no time flat.

Just not yours........
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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