I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah basically just do the same thing she's doing. I do wish that I had a girl that was this into me.call her 10 times a day
Yep... jut start chasing her and she will back off. I know it's counter intuitive, but it works.call her 10 times a day
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
While chasing her works to drive her off. @Desdinova is the right way to handle it. If you want to keep her around, just tell her you're busy and tell her to come over to your place later. Make a date and promise you will see her later and go about your business.Just tell her you're busy or need some time to do your own stuff. I have to do that with mine. Sometimes I have to remind her she can do certain things without me in tow.
It's better to have them a bit clingy instead of distant.
Ask for threesums, get clingy, become an AFC, ask for approval of everything.My girl gets too clingy, hungry for affection and just outright annoying when she likes me too much, i'm looking to turn it down juuust a bit. Tips?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This does not work. She starts thinking that i wanna be distant on purpose. I think i'll just overdo compliments and text her more, tell her i miss her, can't stop thinking about her, that kind of crap.Just tell her you're busy or need some time to do your own stuff. I have to do that with mine. Sometimes I have to remind her she can do certain things without me in tow.
It's better to have them a bit clingy instead of distant.
Send her this:
1:10pm: Hey!
1:11pm: Are you there?
1:12 pm: You must be busy
1:13pm: I will text you later
1:20 pm: Its later
1:22 pm: Are you mad at me?
1:25 pm: Are you ok?
1:29 pm: I hope nothing bad happened to you.
1:32 pm: Please call me right now to let me know you are safe
Chances are your last few messages will show up as "Undelivered" and you'll never hear from her again.
Whammy.....problem solved!
Sadly, I'm sure there are guys who do this. I'm quite certain some of them post here lol
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
::When your phone says bae read your messages with the "read" receipt in gray, yet no response after the first 10 inquiries::Sadly, I'm sure there are guys who do this. I'm quite certain some of them post here lol
Really bro? After all the threads you have read on SS with men complaining women won't give them the time of day, won't give them dates, won't give them affection, won't give them kisses, won't give them sex. You are telling us that she is giving us all that and you don't want it anymore?My girl gets too clingy, hungry for affection and just outright annoying when she likes me too much, i'm looking to turn it down juuust a bit. Tips?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.