"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to LOWER her interest?

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My girl gets too clingy, hungry for affection and just outright annoying when she likes me too much, i'm looking to turn it down juuust a bit. Tips?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just tell her you're busy or need some time to do your own stuff. I have to do that with mine. Sometimes I have to remind her she can do certain things without me in tow.

It's better to have them a bit clingy instead of distant.
While chasing her works to drive her off. @Desdinova is the right way to handle it. If you want to keep her around, just tell her you're busy and tell her to come over to your place later. Make a date and promise you will see her later and go about your business.
 

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There's always the mundane texts like "Hi" "Hey" "How's your day going?" "Whatcha up to?" or texting, social media post her boring links that will drive her interest level down. Basically being too available is a fast way to scale back the IL.
 

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Never thought to see this kind of post on SS.

However its 100% needed.. many times girl are so into you without having done anything (even à date) that's its scary

1. Chasing her
2. None stop calling her
3. Sending countless mêmes of bad joke
4. Comparing her to an animal
5. Burp alot (be indécent in the physical time)

However, you wanna be private about it... cause she might start bad mouth you (thus injure your réputation in certains fields)

If you do everything to chase her away but she clings... submit her to a restriction order with a GPS bracelet to her wrips
 

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My girl gets too clingy, hungry for affection and just outright annoying when she likes me too much, i'm looking to turn it down juuust a bit. Tips?
Ask for threesums, get clingy, become an AFC, ask for approval of everything.

OR you can just go ghost completely (recommended).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just tell her you're busy or need some time to do your own stuff. I have to do that with mine. Sometimes I have to remind her she can do certain things without me in tow.

It's better to have them a bit clingy instead of distant.
This does not work. She starts thinking that i wanna be distant on purpose. I think i'll just overdo compliments and text her more, tell her i miss her, can't stop thinking about her, that kind of crap.
 
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Send her this:

1:10pm: Hey!
1:11pm: Are you there?
1:12 pm: You must be busy :(
1:13pm: I will text you later
1:20 pm: Its later ;)
1:22 pm: Are you mad at me?
1:25 pm: Are you ok?
1:29 pm: I hope nothing bad happened to you.
1:32 pm: Please call me right now to let me know you are safe

Chances are your last few messages will show up as "Undelivered" and you'll never hear from her again.

Whammy.....problem solved!
 

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Send her this:

1:10pm: Hey!
1:11pm: Are you there?
1:12 pm: You must be busy :(
1:13pm: I will text you later
1:20 pm: Its later ;)
1:22 pm: Are you mad at me?
1:25 pm: Are you ok?
1:29 pm: I hope nothing bad happened to you.
1:32 pm: Please call me right now to let me know you are safe

Chances are your last few messages will show up as "Undelivered" and you'll never hear from her again.

Whammy.....problem solved!
:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sadly, I'm sure there are guys who do this. I'm quite certain some of them post here lol
::When your phone says bae read your messages with the "read" receipt in gray, yet no response after the first 10 inquiries:: :rofl:

 

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My girl gets too clingy, hungry for affection and just outright annoying when she likes me too much, i'm looking to turn it down juuust a bit. Tips?
Really bro? After all the threads you have read on SS with men complaining women won't give them the time of day, won't give them dates, won't give them affection, won't give them kisses, won't give them sex. You are telling us that she is giving us all that and you don't want it anymore?

Man, sorry to say but she must not be young or good looking.
 

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You are the man. If you don't want the girls affection/interest/etc. just stop accepting outings with her and date other women. She'll get the point real fast.
 

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you need a man cave to retreat to, that and time to miss her.
 

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UPDATE
Broke up with her due to too many fights and name calling.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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