You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah basically just do the same thing she's doing. I do wish that I had a girl that was this into me.call her 10 times a day
Yep... jut start chasing her and she will back off. I know it's counter intuitive, but it works.call her 10 times a day
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
While chasing her works to drive her off. @Desdinova is the right way to handle it. If you want to keep her around, just tell her you're busy and tell her to come over to your place later. Make a date and promise you will see her later and go about your business.Just tell her you're busy or need some time to do your own stuff. I have to do that with mine. Sometimes I have to remind her she can do certain things without me in tow.
It's better to have them a bit clingy instead of distant.
Ask for threesums, get clingy, become an AFC, ask for approval of everything.My girl gets too clingy, hungry for affection and just outright annoying when she likes me too much, i'm looking to turn it down juuust a bit. Tips?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This does not work. She starts thinking that i wanna be distant on purpose. I think i'll just overdo compliments and text her more, tell her i miss her, can't stop thinking about her, that kind of crap.Just tell her you're busy or need some time to do your own stuff. I have to do that with mine. Sometimes I have to remind her she can do certain things without me in tow.
It's better to have them a bit clingy instead of distant.
Send her this:
1:10pm: Hey!
1:11pm: Are you there?
1:12 pm: You must be busy
1:13pm: I will text you later
1:20 pm: Its later
1:22 pm: Are you mad at me?
1:25 pm: Are you ok?
1:29 pm: I hope nothing bad happened to you.
1:32 pm: Please call me right now to let me know you are safe
Chances are your last few messages will show up as "Undelivered" and you'll never hear from her again.
Whammy.....problem solved!
Sadly, I'm sure there are guys who do this. I'm quite certain some of them post here lol
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
::When your phone says bae read your messages with the "read" receipt in gray, yet no response after the first 10 inquiries::Sadly, I'm sure there are guys who do this. I'm quite certain some of them post here lol
Really bro? After all the threads you have read on SS with men complaining women won't give them the time of day, won't give them dates, won't give them affection, won't give them kisses, won't give them sex. You are telling us that she is giving us all that and you don't want it anymore?My girl gets too clingy, hungry for affection and just outright annoying when she likes me too much, i'm looking to turn it down juuust a bit. Tips?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.