is this you on your avatar?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Found out ex is pregnant, now she blocked me
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Desdinova
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That's Roger Moore in his 007 days
btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
If it's not yours, you drop this b*tch like a bad habit and never speak with her again.
If it is yours (Get a DOCTOR to CONFIRM everything), then you man up and raise the kid.
If it is yours (Get a DOCTOR to CONFIRM everything), then you man up and raise the kid.
Skyline
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I always find it odd that some women think that they can raise a kid alone.
I would itch for a DNA test to be honest. Child support is no joke and if she does file for that when the kid is 10 years old, I can see the attorneys push for all of those years that you didn't "pay" for.
I would itch for a DNA test to be honest. Child support is no joke and if she does file for that when the kid is 10 years old, I can see the attorneys push for all of those years that you didn't "pay" for.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Listen to Taiyuu
Turn the page, deal when it comes
How i see it?
You are not the father... she blocked all communications with you.
So in her mind, you aint the father, you are only plan C (Yep C).. she slept with the dad, covered with the ex-ex, and dropped it on you
Expect her to get back to you for money, get the dna
I know you fine,
Turn the page, deal when it comes
How i see it?
You are not the father... she blocked all communications with you.
So in her mind, you aint the father, you are only plan C (Yep C).. she slept with the dad, covered with the ex-ex, and dropped it on you
Expect her to get back to you for money, get the dna
I know you fine,
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Best advice ever.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
In vitro paternity tests are dangerous and only done in cases of serious medical issues. But after the kid is born, it is much easier.
Just so you know all your rights, assuming you are in the US or a similar western country, you have the right to sue her to force her to take the paternity test. Of course, if it is your kid and you get the court involved, you will end up paying court-ordered child support. It's up to you. There are a few strategic advantages by being the first one to file court papers, one of which is choice of venue. If she moves away, then sues you for support, you'll have to go to court wherever it is she moved away to. Cases can be won that way, just by making it too expensive and difficult for the other side to show up.
Another thing about your right to see the kid and your legal duty to pay support, they are two separate things. If you do get stuck with support, don't just assume you get visitation rights, too. You may still have to sue to get those, but if you are paying support, then you should win visitation.
Just so you know all your rights, assuming you are in the US or a similar western country, you have the right to sue her to force her to take the paternity test. Of course, if it is your kid and you get the court involved, you will end up paying court-ordered child support. It's up to you. There are a few strategic advantages by being the first one to file court papers, one of which is choice of venue. If she moves away, then sues you for support, you'll have to go to court wherever it is she moved away to. Cases can be won that way, just by making it too expensive and difficult for the other side to show up.
Another thing about your right to see the kid and your legal duty to pay support, they are two separate things. If you do get stuck with support, don't just assume you get visitation rights, too. You may still have to sue to get those, but if you are paying support, then you should win visitation.