"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Physicist.

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I'm 18 years old and very unexperienced in dating.
I'm going out with this girl to a place she had suggested, it's basically sightseeing lol, the thing is it's gonna be a short date, she lives kinda far away and it would be a waste of time to just come for that. I'm thinking of grabbing smthing to eat with her but idk what more to do lol, I thought to invite her to my house(we've been together before, but don't know each other that well) to chill, watch something or whatever but since its our first date inviting her over could give her a wrong impression.
I need your help guys, what do you think?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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marmel75

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I'm 18 years old and very unexperienced in dating.
I'm going out with this girl to a place she had suggested, it's basically sightseeing lol, the thing is it's gonna be a short date, she lives kinda far away and it would be a waste of time to just come for that. I'm thinking of grabbing smthing to eat with her but idk what more to do lol, I thought to invite her to my house(we've been together before, but don't know each other that well) to chill, watch something or whatever but since its our first date inviting her over could give her a wrong impression.
I need your help guys, what do you think?
Ok...first thing you need to do is take some deep breaths and relax. It's not that serious. It's just a date. She's just a woman. There will be lots of others just like her. R-E-L-A-X.

Now that we have that out of the way, there is never a bad time to make a bold move in my opinion as long as you do it properly. If you guys are having fun and things are going well, invite her back to your house and tell her you are getting hungry and you want to cook for her. Chicks LOVE that...make something that tastes good and is simple...something like chicken and pasta with vegetables in there. Or shrimp with pasta, etc...basically you want to make sure no matter how bad you are at this you can't F it up.

Cook, eat, then go sit on the couch and turn on netflix and do your thing. How will you give her the wrong impression? Women love sex just as much as guys if not more, they just don't want to outwardly show it.
 

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Ok...first thing you need to do is take some deep breaths and relax. It's not that serious. It's just a date. She's just a woman. There will be lots of others just like her. R-E-L-A-X.

Now that we have that out of the way, there is never a bad time to make a bold move in my opinion as long as you do it properly. If you guys are having fun and things are going well, invite her back to your house and tell her you are getting hungry and you want to cook for her. Chicks LOVE that...make something that tastes good and is simple...something like chicken and pasta with vegetables in there. Or shrimp with pasta, etc...basically you want to make sure no matter how bad you are at this you can't F it up.

Cook, eat, then go sit on the couch and turn on netflix and do your thing. How will you give her the wrong impression? Women love sex just as much as guys if not more, they just don't want to outwardly show it.
I can't cook for ****, do i invite her to see a movie/series? I'm a bit nervous because I never did this before.
 

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Movies aren't good for a first date. You are worried too much about pleasing her, relax... what do you like to do? Plan a date around that. Girls like that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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