Feel the fear, and do it anyway.
exactly, just keep pushing through the discomfort until the uncomfortable becomes comfortable. Extending the
comfort zone is key. what we are seeing is a lot of ego protection in this thread. A lot of avoidance.
It's just like when you start a new job. Your level is at "apprentice", you cannot just expect to jump to "mastery" just like
that. In fact, I would say it's like a job where you have to deal with the public.....if anyone has experience of that, it can feel slightly weird
to now be the "customer", you are on the other side (say like bar work, event security), it feels unnatural at first.....maybe your voice is still very low..maybe you feel a little self conscious..then after maybe a few weeks when you have a few shifts under your belt, you start to feel more
comfortable......it's like you are starting to feel at home. You're voice is now more commanding, coming from the diaphragm................after a few months you've gone from feeling a little uneasy with the public to confident with the public.......
a natural process.
I wouldn't worry about being nervous. Just accept it. I've found women to be very understanding of it, and they actually help you to make it a good interaction.
You're right. In fact, being a "little nervous" can actually come across as more natural. The worry is coming across too smooth. They are almost thinking "where are the cameras?" or "what's this guy selling"
The more smooth you get, the more dodgy it seems... because they get a player vibe from you. So, it's actually good to keep some of that nervous naive energy.
Ha just seeing that now. Read your thoughts.
Really can't understand the constant advice to only approach on IOI's at all.
Me neither. Personally, it would make me feel more awkward or something, if I were to "scan for IOI'S". It's not natural. And what about the woman that you spot across the street.....she didn't see you....how the fvck can she give you an IOI
Her fine azz in those tight jeans all the reason you need to approach. As far as I'm concerned her azz is giving me IOI's.
Prioritize your game over the woman herself.
Love the process more than the individual woman. Grow with the process.