So this girl I've been talking to on and off has been giving me mixed signals. Like she knows I like her (because I asked her out last week) but then she gave this excuse that her and a ex had a bad time, and then I asked for her sc and she said sure she would give it to me. But today I was just standing next to a rail ( this is high school) and she just oddly looked at me and walked passed me. I've decided myself not to talk to her but I'm thinking maybe I'm irrational. When we talk she usually laughs at my jokes, but I know jokes don't mean ****. What should I do?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Should I presue this girl?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When she gives excuse then she is not interested, just ask yourself would you give excuse to someone you want to go out with and she ignored you which is obviosly disrespect.. forget about her, since you have no history it should be easy..
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She is clearly not interested.
Start acting distant a bit, start hitting on other girls instead and see how she reacts but don't waste your time and effort any more on her if you've already 1. pitched a date and 2. got her sc and now she's playing games
Start acting distant a bit, start hitting on other girls instead and see how she reacts but don't waste your time and effort any more on her if you've already 1. pitched a date and 2. got her sc and now she's playing games
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nothing. Go live your life. Meet new girls. Lots of them. Date have fun. You're in highschool. Take nothing serious from a girl under 25. Do not commit to them. Do not get attached to them.
Highschool girls brains haven't finished developing yet. They aren't mature enough. They will change their mind from one day to the next about what they like and what they don't.
Do not get caught up in the mental disaster that is a girl under 25. They aren't capable of having a real relationship.
Date. Have fun. But give zero f_cks.