Would you be mad if your GF consistently Likes a specific guy's pics?

[randalljohnson]

Would you be bothered if your GF seems to be hanging around this one specific guy's page and Likes all/most selfies he posts?

 

[dustmuffin]

I would be concerned. I would watch her other actions. Does she meet this guy in person? You need to divest emotionally from her and be prepared to dump or be dumped. What other information can you give us?

 

[randalljohnson]

I would be concerned. I would watch her other actions. Does she meet this guy in person? You need to divest emotionally from her and be prepared to dump or be dumped. What other information can you give us?

Check out my other thread titled "girlfriend seems to have wandering eyes"

This particular guy, I don't believe she's met in person. But she added him on facebook/instagram the first month or two we were together. He lives local to us. Eventually she deleted him off FB (when things got better in our relationship) but kept him on IG and to this day, seems to consistently Like his selfies

 

[lizardking82]

Hm, look at if she likes photos all over the place. Maybe she likes photos of everyone LOL some girls (a lot of girls, actually) got nothing to do during the day and they are always checking their Insta, liking pics all over the place

 

[randalljohnson]

Hm, look at if she likes photos all over the place. Maybe she likes photos of everyone LOL some girls (a lot of girls, actually) got nothing to do during the day and they are always checking their Insta, liking pics all over the place

I know what you mean, but that's not her. She doesn't "like" everything. Just like how she's not the person to wish EVERYBODY a happy birthday

 

[bigneil]

Winner! Lamest reason to get mad at her, ever.

 

[lizardking82]

I know what you mean, but that's not her. She doesn't "like" everything. Just like how she's not the person to wish EVERYBODY a happy birthday

Well, then be prepared for anything. If she doesn't like everything and she's giving this guy more attention, it means he's doing sth right whether he knows it or not.

 

[17 shots]

Huge red flag for me... 9 times out of 10 they are in contact with that guy in some way. It doesn't necessarily mean they're having sex, but they are probably texting, or in contact in some form. I've had 2 women in my past showing this behavior, and both times I caught them talking to the guy later. Trust your gut feeling, it's usually right lol

 

[randalljohnson]

Huge red flag for me... 9 times out of 10 they are in contact with that guy in some way. It doesn't necessarily mean they're having sex, but they are probably texting, or in contact in some form. I've had 2 women in my past showing this behavior, and both times I caught them talking to the guy later. Trust your gut feeling, it's usually right lol

Is that the reason you broke up? The funny thing with my girl is that she's always told her friends how much she wanted stability and to get married and settle down with her kid and a man

 

[randalljohnson]

Winner! Lamest reason to get mad at her, ever.

Its a valid concern

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Is that the reason you broke up? The funny thing with my girl is that she's always told her friends how much she wanted stability and to get married and settle down with her kid and a man

Keep in mind, she has no other choice. Imagine if she said to her friends how much she wanted to **** every cute guy she sees without ever being in a relationship with them. Yeah....

 

[SgtSplacker]

If a girl doesn't want me talking to other girls she needs to convince me she's a good girl. That Facebook Instagram nonsense is just a free ticket to see other women in my opinion...

 

[RangerMIke]

Nope. Doesn't bother me in the least. But then again, I will not have an 'exclusive' girlfriend for the rest of my life. I do not own the women I date: the women I date do not own me. When they are not with me I don't give a fvck what they do.

Anyway, your girlfriend knows you fairly well. She knows you don't like it when she 'likes' other dudes pictures... and she is doing it anyway. Think about that for a minute and you decide what that means..... Her interest is waning, so you need to go find other women. She will keep doing this until you two get into a fight, then you will become the 'controlling b@stard', with her playing the role of the helpless victim, that some white knight (likely this dude) to save her.

Just tell her you want to see other other women, that you still are happy fvcking her, if she wants to go along with that, but otherwise you are keeping your options open. Don't blame her or look for excuses. Just tell her this is what YOU want and leave it at that.

 

[Roober]

Another reason why social media is ruining relationships. 70% of divorced have Facebook or other social media mentioned. Your going to drive yourself crazy looking at this stuff

 

[Reykhel]

Would you be bothered if your GF seems to be hanging around this one specific guy's page and Likes all/most selfies he posts?

How would I know what she's doing on Facebook?
Why would I care?

Why are you not busy?

Never try to nail them down. She'll resent you for it and probably fvck someone out of spite.

If she's with you she's with you. If she's going to fvck someone else she will. If she's not, she's not.

We are all but passing ships in the night. Try not hold onto things or people too tight.

Beware of crushing the sparrow.

Contemplate the end.

Always welcome the arrival of new ships in the horizon.

 

[Tenacity]

Would you be bothered if your GF seems to be hanging around this one specific guy's page and Likes all/most selfies he posts?

I would DIRECTLY ASK her if she's fvckin the dude, dating the dude, etc. on the side, and if not, why does she like all of his pics?

If you're bothered by something then you're bothered by it. Why do we as Men have to be ashamed for what pisses us off, but women can be pissed off, express it, etc., etc.?

Tell that slvt it looks weird and you don't like it.

 

[lizardking82]

I would DIRECTLY ASK her if she's fvckin the dude, dating the dude, etc. on the side, and if not, why does she like all of his pics?

If you're bothered by something then you're bothered by it. Why do we as Men have to be ashamed for what pisses us off, but women can be pissed off, express it, etc., etc.?

Tell that slvt it looks weird and you don't like it.

I totally agree with you on this one. Not saying it to her in an offensive way cause you'd show this **** is under your skin, but when the girl is your girlfriend and you notice that? Like, listen, I would not go around snooping what she likes and what she doesn't, but if something bothers me about anything, I will tell it to her and wait for her response. Not that I will completely and blindly lie on that response per se, but I will at least make it known there is something I don't like in there.

Just take into account that if any slight thing is there, she will most probably lie to you about it LOL

 

[Who Dares Win]

She probably deleted him from facebook to try to keep a low profile and try some cheap deception.

She probably thinks that instagram is below your radar therefore she has green light there.

I strongly believe that gut feelings must be followed therefore if you're uncomfortable at gut level it means there is something wrong.

Personally I would start to consider an incoming breakup and attend all the necessary prepation it terms of withdrawing whatever investment you put in her while you look for possible new plates.

 

[Glassguy]

Check out my other thread titled "girlfriend seems to have wandering eyes"

This particular guy, I don't believe she's met in person. But she added him on facebook/instagram the first month or two we were together. He lives local to us. Eventually she deleted him off FB (when things got better in our relationship) but kept him on IG and to this day, seems to consistently Like his selfies

I remember the thread you made earlier about this chick. 90% of us told you the same thing, yet you're still here and starting another thread about it because you put up with this sh!t and didn't change a thing.

Many of us have dealt with this crap at one time or another. You ask us for advice, then don't have the balls to do something. Make sense?

I would do one of 2 things.

1.) Address the issue with her asap. You shouldn't be putting up with this and if the shoe was on the other foot, she would have dumped you by now. The problem with addressing it is that there is really no way to keep frame while doing it. You'll look insecure and weak.

2.) Out of nowhere, sit her down and tell her that you need to talk. Tell her that there are some things that you're not comfortable with and you want to take some time to figure out what you want to do. In no way, shape or form do you go into detail about her wondering eyes. It should be no more than a 2 minute talk, all one sided, and all you should tell her is "look in the mirror at some of your behaviors and either fix them or I'm going to explore other possibilities. This chick isn't stupid. If she's fvcking one of these guys she is going to think that's what you're taking about. DO NOT HAVE A CONVERSATION ABOUT THIS. DON'T ANSWER QUESTIONS. QUICKLY SPEAK YOUR MIND AND LEAVE. If it gets into a conversation about it, it will either turn into a fight, or she will just tell you there is nothing to worry about.

This chick needs to go to hardcore timeout.

Bottom line, it's up to her to fix her inappropriate behavior, not your job, in order to make you happy enough to keep seeing her.

She's either going to agree with you about splitting up and bounce, or realize that you WILL walk if sh!t doesn't change NOW.

Tell her that you're taking a couple of days apart to figure out exactly what you want to do.....leave her in limbo and do not initiate any contact. Don't blow her completely off, but wait a while to text her back, don't answer her calls......make her really think about it.

If left unattended you're going to get dumped because she is getting away with this crab, your not addressing it and she won't respect you.

Man up and address it this way and you won't lose frame.

 

[lizardking82]

I remember the thread you made earlier about this chick. 90% of us told you the same thing, yet you're still here and starting another thread about it because you put up with this sh!t and didn't change a thing.

Many of us have dealt with this crap at one time or another. You ask us for advice, then don't have the balls to do something. Make sense?

I would do one of 2 things.

1.) Address the issue with her asap. You shouldn't be putting up with this and if the shoe was on the other foot, she would have dumped you by now. The problem with addressing it is that there is really no way to keep frame while doing it. You'll look insecure and weak.

2.) Out of nowhere, sit her down and tell her that you need to talk. Tell her that there are some things that you're not comfortable with and you want to take some time to figure out what you want to do. In no way, shape or form do you go into detail about her wondering eyes. It should be no more than a 2 minute talk, all one sided, and all you should tell her is "look in the mirror at some of your behaviors and either fix them or I'm going to explore other possibilities. This chick isn't stupid. If she's fvcking one of these guys she is going to think that's what you're taking about. DO NOT HAVE A CONVERSATION ABOUT THIS. DON'T ANSWER QUESTIONS. QUICKLY SPEAK YOUR MIND AND LEAVE. If it gets into a conversation about it, it will either turn into a fight, or she will just tell you there is nothing to worry about.

This chick needs to go to hardcore timeout.

Bottom line, it's up to her to fix her inappropriate behavior, not your job, in order to make you happy enough to keep seeing her.

She's either going to agree with you about splitting up and bounce, or realize that you WILL walk if sh!t doesn't change NOW.

Tell her that you're taking a couple of days apart to figure out exactly what you want to do.....leave her in limbo and do not initiate any contact. Don't blow her completely off, but wait a while to text her back, don't answer her calls......make her really think about it.

If left unattended you're going to get dumped because she is getting away with this crab, your not addressing it and she won't respect you.

Man up and address it this way and you won't lose frame.

I am so sorry for myself that I was not around this forum around September...these words would have probably saved me a lot of pain I went through. However, thanks for putting it like this. Now I know what to do with my next cases if anything similar happened. I had my girlfriend giving me **** when I was telling her to take a trip and she was hesitating all over the place. Don't know what it might have been, but I am sure the "pep talk" would have solved the situation in my favour and it would have saved me a lot of pain, begging, pleading. Thanks.