"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Advice on dealing with a POTENTIALLY attractive girl?

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Some epileptic married chick is obsessed with me, and me thinking I desperately need to break this dry spell of mine have fed into her lusting for me, sexting, phone sex.

She's fat, not attractive physically, she might be cute if she lost weight, she acknowledges she's fat, though I've never mentioned it ("when you're out of hospital you can fully express your femininity" I tell her, ergo she might not repulse me when dressed and made up, but it's a long shot...) and after sending me nudes which seriously just turned me right-off, she senses I don't like her sexually. Well duh girl! I'll be visiting my mother and grandmother in her ward tomorrow, and I don't know where to take this. Dry spell is awful, hideous, a horror and a torture, I hate it, it's gotta die, die, die already! Die I say! Burn! But...

I'm obsessed with my own weight loss/fitness right now, and preparing for a major visit to NYC next May. Nothing will stand in my way. This chick has problems which her getting thin wouldn't solve, plus she's married (hates the bastard she says). She's pseudo-friend zoned me after I didn't go gaga over her nudes, but that won't last I feel. She'll be back... Do I subtly suggest we can f*ck if she loses weight? Is there a subtle way to do that, lol? She'll perhaps forget about me when she's back home and studying...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Are you fvcking serious about this sh!t?

OMG OP, this is ridiculous...so you are going to entertain fvcking a whale because if she drops 100 lbs she might be good looking???

I don't even know what to say...this might be a new low point for this board.
 

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Are you fvcking serious about this sh!t?

OMG OP, this is ridiculous...so you are going to entertain fvcking a whale because if she drops 100 lbs she might be good looking???

I don't even know what to say...this might be a new low point for this board.
You are the most negative person on SoSuave.
 

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You are the most negative person on SoSuave.
All you estrogen filled princesses need to toughen up. I tell the truth and I don't mince words. Too many people here have onion skin when as a man you should have alligator skin...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If you are not attracted to a woman then do not go after her. It's really that simple. I don;t judge guys going after married women, and I do not judge married women who'cheat', it's just a woman's nature to always be looking for back-ups and replacements. Women are natural cheaters. You can never really OWN a woman, it's only your turn.

Having said that... flirting with teasing married women is fine, lunch dates and an occasional kiss is fine. But for GOD'S SAKE, do not fvck them. You cross that line and lord knows what might happen.
 

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All you estrogen filled princesses need to toughen up. I tell the truth and I don't mince words. Too many people here have onion skin when as a man you should have alligator skin...
Frame it however you want. You're negative. Take a hard look at yourself.
 

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Frame it however you want. You're negative. Take a hard look at yourself.
Nah, I'm a realist. You seem to enjoy being in fantasy land with Happy Gilmore riding the hobby horse and drinking pitchers of beer...

And now apparently in these fantasy lands they don't have hot chicks walking around in lingerie like in Happy Gilmore, they have whales walking around in curtains...what the fvck is going on with people??

Have some God damn self respect for yourself.
 

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Affairs are also extremely addictive for both people. What you both think is a "hit it and quit it" can often end up as a long term FWB that could go on for a few years. Obviously that greatly increases the exposure to risk of getting caught.

And you're exchanging naughty texts by phone. <Facepalm> Especially if hubby decides to snoop and look at her phone.
 
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Nah, I'm a realist. You seem to enjoy being in fantasy land with Happy Gilmore riding the hobby horse and drinking pitchers of beer...

And now apparently in these fantasy lands they don't have hot chicks walking around in lingerie like in Happy Gilmore, they have whales walking around in curtains...what the fvck is going on with people??

Have some God damn self respect for yourself.
Huh?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Fat, epileptic, married chick...talk about scraping the bottom of the barrel.
 

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potentially attractive girl? what does that even mean? this thread has me perplexed.
 

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It's a girl who's cute but overweight who'd be hot if she slimmed down, that's what. Not quite a whale but still fat.

We've called it quits, although I enjoyed pseudo sex from an interested woman after an eternity wandering the searing, arid desert, I couldn't pony up the ******* factor to tell her she's fat and that the real deal would have to wait; the spell stands defiant but a little bruised. Told her to delete everything we've shared.
 

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It's a girl who's cute but overweight who'd be hot if she slimmed down, that's what. Not quite a whale but still fat.

We've called it quits, although I enjoyed pseudo sex from an interested woman after an eternity wandering the searing, arid desert, I couldn't pony up the ******* factor to tell her she's fat and that the real deal would have to wait; the spell stands defiant but a little bruised. Told her to delete everything we've shared.
Gotcha! a lot of overweight women are actually very pretty, they got to lose the pounds. I can't even force myself to have an erection with a large woman...
 

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Gotcha! a lot of overweight women are actually very pretty, they got to lose the pounds. I can't even force myself to have an erection with a large woman...
I agree, some of them have really great looking faces and then they let their body ruin their good features.

Visionist, I wouldn't fret, I think you were trying tp project your weight loss unto her, but remember, you can't control people and you cannot mold them the way you want them to be. Glad to hear you moved on to find another who was up to your standards.

Happy hunting.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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