"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Valentine's Day

Berom

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Not a big fan as I'm sure most of us aren't.

I've been dating a girl for a couple months. She's a good woman who doesn't ask for much typically and doesn't feel entitled to anything as a female.

However, her good friend sent this to me the other night on Facebook messenger,

"I'm being [name of girl]'s loyal side-kick right now and thought I'd let you know that she will be expecting full on romanticism for Valentine's Day. Wouldn't want you to not get the memo. She's such a hopeless cheesy romantic so those things are really important to her. Which I'm sure you already know. Which I'm sure you'd do anyway. Just helpin a brotha out. Go all out. Wine. Flowers. Serenades. Hahaha."
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When I read this I thought, "Fvck that shvt." If this is true, it's a total buzzkill for me. I haven't brought this specific topic up to the girl I've been dating yet. I'm still pondering on whether or not to just not do anything at all.

I'm not losing any sleep on this, but I want to do the correct thing in regards to letting her know I'm not playing into the female Valentine's day entitlement.

Can anyone relate? Any suggestions? Thanks fellas.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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El Payaso

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Don't do anything.
 

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Not a big fan as I'm sure most of us aren't.

I've been dating a girl for a couple months. She's a good woman who doesn't ask for much typically and doesn't feel entitled to anything as a female.

However, her good friend sent this to me the other night on Facebook messenger,

"I'm being [name of girl]'s loyal side-kick right now and thought I'd let you know that she will be expecting full on romanticism for Valentine's Day. Wouldn't want you to not get the memo. She's such a hopeless cheesy romantic so those things are really important to her. Which I'm sure you already know. Which I'm sure you'd do anyway. Just helpin a brotha out. Go all out. Wine. Flowers. Serenades. Hahaha."
​
When I read this I thought, "Fvck that shvt." If this is true, it's a total buzzkill for me. I haven't brought this specific topic up to the girl I've been dating yet. I'm still pondering on whether or not to just not do anything at all.

I'm not losing any sleep on this, but I want to do the correct thing in regards to letting her know I'm not playing into the female Valentine's day entitlement.

Can anyone relate? Any suggestions? Thanks fellas.
Third party advice from a chick? Not on your life.

Do it the way you want.
 

AttackFormation

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Do exactly the OPPOSITE of that advice.
 

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Not a big fan as I'm sure most of us aren't.

I've been dating a girl for a couple months. She's a good woman who doesn't ask for much typically and doesn't feel entitled to anything as a female.

However, her good friend sent this to me the other night on Facebook messenger,
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Who do you think told her friend to facebook message you? You don't have to go all out but you have to do at least something or face her fury?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Berom

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Who do you think told her friend to facebook message you? You don't have to go all out but you have to do at least something or face her fury?
I'm almost positive they talked about it and then she reached out to me. Regardless of what happened, I don't appreciate the tone and expectancy of that message. I've decided I'd be willing to take her to dinner but I'm way past chocolates, flowers, and cards for Valentine's Day. It's very juvenile.
 

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I'm almost positive they talked about it and then she reached out to me. Regardless of what happened, I don't appreciate the tone and expectancy of that message. I've decided I'd be willing to take her to dinner but I'm way past chocolates, flowers, and cards for Valentine's Day. It's very juvenile.
Dinner is fine. A little more MIGHT be fine too. Puking flowers, cards, chocolates and dinners is just stupid.
 

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Do whatever you feel comfortable with.

You'd be surprised how appreciative girls are when doing something that took you 2 min to think of.

Dinner a bottle of wine and a nice fvck.....job done.
 
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