If she is going to come back, do you think NC will be what does it? or that I should stay NC longer then hit her up to hang out?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If she is going to come back, do you think NC will be what does it? or that I should stay NC longer then hit her up to hang out?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
SgtSplacker
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Just trying to hookup with a girl that is with a man makes you look bad for several reasons. Not only that but you know what the first problem is that you guys are going have if things go happily ever after for you two? Issues with trust, and that is one of the most difficult things to recover from. You're on a mission just to get a flawed relationship, some dudes prolly piping your girl right now and this girl doesn't even really do it for you. Stop wasting your time.
She's still with the uber beta, so if he's piping her that's no biggie. I get where you're coming from on some of the other stuff, but I know you dont wanna sit through my rationalizations to the contrary.
Do you think no contact will make her miss me enough to hit me up?
Go NC to move on, not to get her back. You should stop bumping this thread and let it die.
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agree 100%
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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NC might do it, keep an eye on her because you just know she's going to leave the loser eventually.
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After 2 months she's gonna write to you.
I agree. I accidentally called her on skype on the sixth, and we spoke briefly via text. She knew it was an accidental clcik and i meant to click a diff name, Id say that pushed the date back a bit but it will happen