Hi Iqqi,
iqqi said:
LovelyLady, I disagree that women don't use "game", and DJ tactics. We've been using it for years.
I actually said I DO think women have "game". (which is differnt from playing games) game = seduction/charming the opposite sex techniques. Here:
LovelyLady said:
.. We women have been seducing men for ages - I concur with you that we have had "game" reaching back into the eternal past - but to "game" a Man - with a Man's (Don Juan's) technique will not be effective on a masculine man.
But where I would diverge from you is when you say we women have been using DJ tactics for years. Historically, women as a class have not gamed men using DJ/male seduction tactics for all that long. The masculine seduction tactics of the DJ being used by women are effective with men who are products of the post-feminist movement of the late 60's early 70's and later.
But being a Don Juanita is not effective with
all men - particularly not men who have a strong sense of their own masculinity - and also men that are just plain tired of being with women who don't love them well/generously.
But
all men (whether they have internalized the Feminist influenced changes in gender roles, or are Traditionalists/Natural Order believers) respond favorably to traditional female/feminine seduction techniques/behaviors.
iqqi said:
That is "always keep him guessing". Or some version of it. Games? Manipulation? I don't think it is that serious. It really just means, don't be too available, clingy, and needy.
My understanding of "Always keep him guessing" (which is something my Grandma often advised), means to not be boring and predictable. Be interesting, stay a growing, vibrant woman. Be unpredictable - surprise him - sexually, intellectually, and even in your homemaking/meals for him for that matter. Be playful, adventurous, spontaneous, fun.
I was never taught that "always keep him guessing" means try to make him jealous or make him feel like he has to compete for me.
In conclusion, your friend did some things right to attract the Man you wanted. You also say she has attracted the other attention of other men you have been interested in. Clearly she is doing (or not doing) behaviors that you could benefit from learning/thinking about if you want to attract those men too.