You know, so much of our diferences and issues, and difficulties could be reduced SO significantly if our society really put in place an integratiing of LEARNING the right psychological tools and emotional tools to not only handle rejection, but handle being in Love.
It is so incredibly difficult for so many people to truly 'open up' and Be Themselves,and actually be 'vulnerable'.
To understand the deep nuances of healthy Social Dynamics and INteraction. To recognize its gifts and challenges. And how necessary it is to understand that DEEPLY, we are all made of the same human 'stuff'.
There is no division.
Only the one you have implanted in your own mind.
It's really quite tragic you know.
Even some of the 'strongest' Men and Women have a deep fear of failure, rejection, non acceptance, and need for approval.
When people are really not getting these naturlaly human needs met for intimacy and wholeness.
SO we get hurt..and hurt again.
And then we say "NEVER AGAIN!".
But without maturity, and true Emotional and Psychological TOOLS.
So we build WALLS.
And we starve.
We make people jump through hoops, becasue we know, that it is a fact that most people do NOT know how to handle a mature intimate relationship, they don't have the tools.
Terms like Personal Boundary and Emotional Resources are not known. Thay are not mainstream.
Growing up, we 'learned' frmo FAILURE and REJECTION. I don't kow of many people who learned proper perspectives,and true emotional /psychological Healing growing up.
we just 'dealt with it."
We think about 'faking' confidence. But when in reality we NEED to Focus on CREATING Experiences.
Fake this, and fake that. Superficial this and that.
That is our society.
Who can blame us for thinking a certain way?
It is reinforced.
Yet, we have to recognize our faults and results, and deal with them in a positive and empowering way.
This all comes from inside.
And hopefully...HOPEFULLY..you may find a Kind Soul to Guide you there.
And lately I seem to see people get more and more isolated, and in fact, have this weird identity Crisis. And inner crises.
They may thin they know who they are, but they don't really.
And they may think they have an 'image' of who they want romantically, but not DEEPLY.
I see poeple who WANT to be constantly DISTRACTED.
They want their ATTENTION elsewhere.
I'm seeing this a LOT.
Why?
Dissatisfaction?
Inner conflict?
Inability to "DEAL" with it?
You know, I don't wan to be a bummer, but damn, people need help.
It's this micro managing mind set, as I call it.
that just seems to take away your focus from your inner self, and (gasp!! no, he didn't dare say that!) and ignore a Spiritual side to your life.
Wihtout an identity, how can you have Direction?
And without Direction, how do you accomplish your Mission, your Goals in Life?
So people 'worry" and 'over analyze", and maybe, just maybe they get to see the Light..............
meh, rant over, mind dump off.
Thanks.
