Nite,
Cool that you are trying to get this area (and others in your life) handled. Props to you.
After reading some of your posts, I wanted to share some things that I really wish I had known at your age. It would have changed how I saw everything.
1) Girls LOVE relationships, romance and sex. They do. WAYYYY more than we are told when we are young. There's a reason for that: If I knew then what I know now about girls your age, I would have been a ****ing teenage steamroller.
The point is to realize that girls are SUPER EXCITED to be involved in a romantic or sexual situation. They love it.
2) The most powerful pick up tool in the world is something very simple. Possession of it will always draw women (and friends) to you, but the opposite of it will repel people from you.
What is it? It's happiness. It is the unshakable state of being happy and content with one's self that women find incredibly attractive.
Here's a couple of cases that demonstrate it perfectly.
- You invite a girl out and she cancels the day before. Instead of getting upset and striking back at her (which shows you are internally shakable by her and are counting on her to be happy, which is very unhealthy and unattractive), what if you responded lightly, as in "Oh cool! Thanks for letting me know. That works out perfectly, actually. Rain check for ____ ?"
Now, there are guys on here, plenty who know what they are talking about, that might tell me that I'm wrong with this approach. All I can tell you is that it works. A ton.
Why? Because I'm happy. I'm self fulfilled. It doesn't matter to me if a girl cancels on me, because I know there are literally billions of others out there. But also, and it sounds like you are getting good with this part already, I am totally fine enjoying my own company. I like myself.
There is a fundamental change that happens when you realize that while you might have a few skills to work on, there is NOTHING wrong with you. You have everything you need to successful in whatever you want. If that includes PU, awesome.
3) Treat women with respect
Be charming, don't worry about defending the male ego. Be nice when they deserve it (which is often). If they really are being intolerable, cut them out. You don't want them, anyway.
The best pickup strategy is becoming the male counterpart of the kind of people you want to date and then hang out where they are. It's so easy, it's ridiculous. I promise!
Cool that you are trying to get this area (and others in your life) handled. Props to you.
After reading some of your posts, I wanted to share some things that I really wish I had known at your age. It would have changed how I saw everything.
1) Girls LOVE relationships, romance and sex. They do. WAYYYY more than we are told when we are young. There's a reason for that: If I knew then what I know now about girls your age, I would have been a ****ing teenage steamroller.
The point is to realize that girls are SUPER EXCITED to be involved in a romantic or sexual situation. They love it.
2) The most powerful pick up tool in the world is something very simple. Possession of it will always draw women (and friends) to you, but the opposite of it will repel people from you.
What is it? It's happiness. It is the unshakable state of being happy and content with one's self that women find incredibly attractive.
Here's a couple of cases that demonstrate it perfectly.
- You invite a girl out and she cancels the day before. Instead of getting upset and striking back at her (which shows you are internally shakable by her and are counting on her to be happy, which is very unhealthy and unattractive), what if you responded lightly, as in "Oh cool! Thanks for letting me know. That works out perfectly, actually. Rain check for ____ ?"
Now, there are guys on here, plenty who know what they are talking about, that might tell me that I'm wrong with this approach. All I can tell you is that it works. A ton.
Why? Because I'm happy. I'm self fulfilled. It doesn't matter to me if a girl cancels on me, because I know there are literally billions of others out there. But also, and it sounds like you are getting good with this part already, I am totally fine enjoying my own company. I like myself.
There is a fundamental change that happens when you realize that while you might have a few skills to work on, there is NOTHING wrong with you. You have everything you need to successful in whatever you want. If that includes PU, awesome.
3) Treat women with respect
Be charming, don't worry about defending the male ego. Be nice when they deserve it (which is often). If they really are being intolerable, cut them out. You don't want them, anyway.
The best pickup strategy is becoming the male counterpart of the kind of people you want to date and then hang out where they are. It's so easy, it's ridiculous. I promise!
