"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Zero patience with women

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have zero and now walk away at any emotional wildfire they try throwing.
However if they come and ask for adivce or to just be heard/understood (which is slim) i will have more tolerance.
 
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TheKid said:
I have zero and now walk away at any emotional wildfire they try throwing.
However if they come and ask for adivce or to just be heard/understood (which is slim) i will have more tolerance.
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How do you know if they try to come back when you’ve blocked and deleted them for displaying ****ty behavior? When I’m to the point I walk away, that’s it. You’ll never hear from me again and I’ll never know if you tried to talk to me because you were blocked and deleted and gone out of my life forever.
 
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If your gone forever that means your gone forever and that person should also be gone forever out of your life, thoughts, feed.
 
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In my view, there are two kinds of walking away. One that is final, and one that is to enforce your boundaries and could be final depending on her ultimate response to it. If you’re not interested in an LTR, walking away permanently at the first boundary crossing is fine, but you’ll probably have a tough time making an LTR work that way. In my experience, many women (usually the hottest ones of course), need you to walk away until they come back to you and apologize and tell you they will change, and if they don’t do that then they weren’t compatible. This assumes the boundary they crossed wasn’t something really bad like cheating. This is how you mold them to you and ensure compatibility.

These are the rules for riding the fun bus. Don’t like them and I’ll kick you off and keep driving without looking back. If you run and catch up and apologize, you can get back on. Repeatedly break the rules or break an unforgivable one, then you’re off forever.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Don't reinforce bad behavior, don't punish either, just miss me with that regular bullsh1t or I walk.
 
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Robert28 said:
How do you know if they try to come back when you’ve blocked and deleted them for displaying ****ty behavior? When I’m to the point I walk away, that’s it. You’ll never hear from me again and I’ll never know if you tried to talk to me because you were blocked and deleted and gone out of my life forever.
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I don't generally block unless they really annoy me. In any case, if someone really wants to get in contact there are ways around it.

What I mean by having less patience is that I'll quickly unmatch women on Tinder that are unresponsive or say something stupid and I'll stop calling or seeing a woman if I don't like her attitude.

I feel like when you meet someone new you have to have a low tolerance level. Later, when they have proven themselves by cooperating to some degree, then you can give them more leeway.

The point is that they have to earn it. If on the first contact I'm seeing the slightest disrespect, stupidity or a lack of genuine interest, I'm moving on.
 
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It is a good thing OP. Women who don't show high interest and chase you from early on are almost never worth your time. You will be able to save considerable time and effort by preselecting only for women who are clearly into to you.
 
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FlexpertHamilton said:
It is a good thing OP. Women who don't show high interest and chase you from early on are almost never worth your time. You will be able to save considerable time and effort by preselecting only for women who are clearly into to you.
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Yes, that's what I think. You can save so much time and effort this way.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You should have as much patience as you would talking with anyone, otherwise you're harboring resentment towards the sex as a whole or something, which will just make women even bitchier.

You're a spring of strength and positivity in a woman's life, and as such you're a gift. If you feel a woman doesn't deserve that gift you are free to dismiss her. This is an effortless endeavor.

I see nothing wrong with your rules for qualifying.

When you decide to grace a woman with your time and attention it's important that action is unconditional in nature. The decision on what to say/do can be conditional, but the execution should be unconditional.
 
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