I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Those things usually lead to fun conversations where you can cold read them, do palmistry, etc. Might sound kinda corny to us guys, but chicks do eat that sh1t like candy.
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i didnt tell him anything to say because it has to come natural. i want him to become good at natural conversations, so he can think of what to say for himself, based on the situation. thats the best way to go about it. and if he still needs something to say, i referred him to this site, so..... search for talking points and number closes and such.Originally posted by Gonzalo
^ agree, the brother needs to get out and practice, but he is also asking WHAT to say. C'mon, if he has zero material right now, you can't expect him to talk about the weather with 50 strangers and not want to shoot himself huh?
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I get what you're saying, but also realize that things "come natural" at very different rates for very different people. When we learn new things, of course the idea is for them to come natural, which eventually comes with practice. That doesn't mean, however, that we contain all the answers within us: some posts here and asf, to name just two resources, are great for getting guys started with some canned stuff/drills. The idea is not to use five or six lines for the rest of your life, but to use them in the field until you catch the dynamic and can come up with your own stuff, whatever you might want it to be.Originally posted by Ace of Flames
i didnt tell him anything to say because it has to come natural. i want him to become good at natural conversations, so he can think of what to say for himself, based on the situation. thats the best way to go about it. and if he still needs something to say, i referred him to this site, so..... search for talking points and number closes and such.