Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Those things usually lead to fun conversations where you can cold read them, do palmistry, etc. Might sound kinda corny to us guys, but chicks do eat that sh1t like candy.
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i didnt tell him anything to say because it has to come natural. i want him to become good at natural conversations, so he can think of what to say for himself, based on the situation. thats the best way to go about it. and if he still needs something to say, i referred him to this site, so..... search for talking points and number closes and such.Originally posted by Gonzalo
^ agree, the brother needs to get out and practice, but he is also asking WHAT to say. C'mon, if he has zero material right now, you can't expect him to talk about the weather with 50 strangers and not want to shoot himself huh?
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I get what you're saying, but also realize that things "come natural" at very different rates for very different people. When we learn new things, of course the idea is for them to come natural, which eventually comes with practice. That doesn't mean, however, that we contain all the answers within us: some posts here and asf, to name just two resources, are great for getting guys started with some canned stuff/drills. The idea is not to use five or six lines for the rest of your life, but to use them in the field until you catch the dynamic and can come up with your own stuff, whatever you might want it to be.Originally posted by Ace of Flames
i didnt tell him anything to say because it has to come natural. i want him to become good at natural conversations, so he can think of what to say for himself, based on the situation. thats the best way to go about it. and if he still needs something to say, i referred him to this site, so..... search for talking points and number closes and such.