"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"You're too serious"

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If a girl says this to you what the hell does it mean? A girl I was seeing for a while said it to me about a year ago and recently my mate had it said to him. I guess it was something to do with me being AFC and wanting a relationship with her, perhaps she didn't feel the same way? Does anyone know, it's really bugging me.

Perseverance.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zekko

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My guess is she's saying you're boring and not fun enough.
Could be what you're saying too, though.
 

The_411

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Too serious = not fun and not making her wet. Doesn't mean you need to be a prankster but she's indicating that you're not making her tingly.
 

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Youre too serious= you came on too hard too fast and you aren't a challenge
 

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"You're too serious"
The Victory Unlimited, Babelingual Translation:

"You're NOT as attractive to me as my fantasy "celebrity crush", so there's really nothing you can do that will please me. AND because of that...it means absolutely NOTHING to me that you might get turned off or offended by my random, self-important, overly entitled, and UNSOLICITED criticism of your statistically normal demeanor and behavior."

 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DJVladdy

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I've been called too serious before. It means that you act like a "badass" because in reality you are scared of appearing VULNERABLE. And actually being vulnerable takes balls.
 

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DJVladdy said:
I've been called too serious before. It means that you act like a "badass" because in reality you are scared of appearing VULNERABLE. And actually being vulnerable takes balls.
That's one interpretation of it.

To me, maybe it seems you and your friend came off canned. Was it right around the time you first started studying PUA?

You might also just need to lighten up a bit. Girls like bad boys. And bad boys are reckless. If you wear the "i don't give a fvck" attitude, I bet you will never be called "serious" again. :]

Pee outside in public every once in awhile.
Spit on the floor inside grocery stores.
Leave a huge mess everywhere you go.

LIVE a little.

-Scars
 
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So I wasn't turning her on, coming across as an AFC? I thought so! :whistle:

Yes, Scars it was at the time I had just discovered this forum, I don't think I had read the book of pook at the time or the DJ bible.

If I remember correctly she hadn't long split up with her boyfriend (I think 3 months before) and probably saw me as the perfect rebound, but I refused to play ball unless she committed to me which is enough to turn anyone off tbh! It was also around the time I thought I wanted a relationship so refused to get jiggy with this girl, but I have come long way since then. I just didn't know what she meant by it and also because Jariel posted a thread about women not taking him seriously enough, so I guess it's all about finding that balance between not taking things too seriously, but not becoming a Jester.
 

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You gotta be brought down to reality, theyll have a bf they love, then they'll get banged by random strangers from facebook and street, then they'll go out with their girlfriends and get banged some more.

Serious = clueless
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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