"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"You're too serious"

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If a girl says this to you what the hell does it mean? A girl I was seeing for a while said it to me about a year ago and recently my mate had it said to him. I guess it was something to do with me being AFC and wanting a relationship with her, perhaps she didn't feel the same way? Does anyone know, it's really bugging me.

Perseverance.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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zekko

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My guess is she's saying you're boring and not fun enough.
Could be what you're saying too, though.
 

The_411

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Too serious = not fun and not making her wet. Doesn't mean you need to be a prankster but she's indicating that you're not making her tingly.
 

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Youre too serious= you came on too hard too fast and you aren't a challenge
 

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"You're too serious"
The Victory Unlimited, Babelingual Translation:

"You're NOT as attractive to me as my fantasy "celebrity crush", so there's really nothing you can do that will please me. AND because of that...it means absolutely NOTHING to me that you might get turned off or offended by my random, self-important, overly entitled, and UNSOLICITED criticism of your statistically normal demeanor and behavior."

 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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DJVladdy

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I've been called too serious before. It means that you act like a "badass" because in reality you are scared of appearing VULNERABLE. And actually being vulnerable takes balls.
 

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DJVladdy said:
I've been called too serious before. It means that you act like a "badass" because in reality you are scared of appearing VULNERABLE. And actually being vulnerable takes balls.
That's one interpretation of it.

To me, maybe it seems you and your friend came off canned. Was it right around the time you first started studying PUA?

You might also just need to lighten up a bit. Girls like bad boys. And bad boys are reckless. If you wear the "i don't give a fvck" attitude, I bet you will never be called "serious" again. :]

Pee outside in public every once in awhile.
Spit on the floor inside grocery stores.
Leave a huge mess everywhere you go.

LIVE a little.

-Scars
 
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So I wasn't turning her on, coming across as an AFC? I thought so! :whistle:

Yes, Scars it was at the time I had just discovered this forum, I don't think I had read the book of pook at the time or the DJ bible.

If I remember correctly she hadn't long split up with her boyfriend (I think 3 months before) and probably saw me as the perfect rebound, but I refused to play ball unless she committed to me which is enough to turn anyone off tbh! It was also around the time I thought I wanted a relationship so refused to get jiggy with this girl, but I have come long way since then. I just didn't know what she meant by it and also because Jariel posted a thread about women not taking him seriously enough, so I guess it's all about finding that balance between not taking things too seriously, but not becoming a Jester.
 

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You gotta be brought down to reality, theyll have a bf they love, then they'll get banged by random strangers from facebook and street, then they'll go out with their girlfriends and get banged some more.

Serious = clueless
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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