"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"you're funny"
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Dude, who knows what it means. Maybe it means that you're funny. If you like her, you gotta escalate. Stop playing it safe, looking for little meaningless signs. Grab your balls and dive in.
Chickfight
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It's more like, they smirk and analyze me in a very logical way, "you're funny." There's gotta be other guys who have been in my shoes.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PapiChulo
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Chickfight
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If she's saying "you're funny" to your penis though...this probably isn't a great thing. On the plus side you'll probably still get to do her. On the negative side she might be singing Disney songs whilst you do.
( but just in case, try to regulate the amount of silly jokes you make. It's often really anoying to me guys that jsut keep making jokes and then laugh to it saying ahhhh i'm just messing with ya. It just makes me walk away. Guys that like you but try to making themselve look like they don't care teasing you like a 8yo. So unsexy. Most of the time they are like even 25 and convinced that's the way to make girls fall but It makes me imagine he would do the same during sex and brrrr gives me bad shivers)
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SandHawk
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STOP OVER-ANALYSING FOR F*CKS SAKE!
Oh yes i love this scene. Actually a couple of guys have answered to me funny how?? and then we acted out the the rest of the scene.f283000 said:I knew somebody was going to do it sooner or later
You know, the way you tell the story, you're funny, you're a funny guy!
Props for recognizing Scorsese flicks especially Goodfellas. As george carlin said, Joe Pesci seems like he would be a good god since he would get **** done.BBbardot said:
Let's over-analyse the sh*t out of this and base the rest of our life based on the conclusion!
STOP OVER-ANALYSING FOR F*CKS SAKE!
NOW GO HOME AND GET YOUR ****ING SHINEBOX!!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I don't think it's an IOI or sign of friendzone in it of itself. You are reading into it too much. If she is physically attracted to you, funny is a plus. If she is not physically attracted to you, being funny just makes you a cool friend to talk to.piday314 said:
At worst, if you overdo the funny, you become the try-hard dancing monkey, and that is a turn off.