"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Your profile pic is EVERYTHING in OLD...

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,928
Reaction score
19,239
made one small change to my OLD profile...I changed my pic.

Went from a selfie in a T-shirt to a group photo that I cropped so only I was in it wearing a button down shirt and jeans.

My account has been going CRAZY over the last 24 hours. Got 5 unsolicited messages, 20+ profile views and numerous messages back that I initiated at a much higher response rate than I was getting. Changed no words in my profile description. The other pictures are still up and visible, the only difference is my main picture people first see. Seeing the words handsome, cute and sexy being thrown about regularly in those messages also...

Make sure your profile pic is a GOOD one. It only takes ONE pic where you look good to succeed. Try a dress shirt and jeans or a suit and tie... Keep changing it and wait 24 hours to see your response rate to each one, if it's not good enough keep swapping it out. I wish I knew about this 6 months ago. Other pics DO NOT matter, it's kinda like they say "Well he looks really good in this pic, so he has the potential to look like this, so if he looks like the other pic other days then it's cool, whatever".

I am going to be banging a lot of hot chicks coming up because I kill it in person and I'm getting a lot more responses off this pic. Doesn't hurt that I look jacked in that pic with big shoulder humps pushing the shirt up, lol...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Yewki

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 6, 2013
Messages
1,504
Reaction score
589
My account has been going CRAZY over the last 24 hours.
I'm sure your new pic helped a lot but another thing consider is that changing your profile probably bumped up its priority in the match results or whatever

It's probably just a good idea in general to update your profile every so often
 

dustmuffin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 21, 2015
Messages
2,495
Reaction score
1,423
Age
63
Same thing happened to me. I now have a sport coat and tie pic.
 
Top