"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Viper423
Senior Don Juan
-Ribbed T-shirt from Structure
-Hem/Surfer necklace
-Doc Martin Boots
-And my State Baseball Championship ring
I'm an amateur bodybuilder so I like to wear tight fitting shirts like the ribbed t's from Structure.
being "weird" is more of a gift than a curse. weird simply means different or unique. no girl wants a "normal" guy when it comes down to it. you have a better chance with women because you are not the type to just try to fit in with the crowd. as you approach a girl, and i've found this to work, think of whatever you think is wrong with you, and think of how proud you are to have that trait. i myself don't exactly "fit in," but i'm accepted because i am proud to be different. that, obviously, shows confidence.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
RockGuitarist
Don Juan
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- Oct 29, 2002
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Yeh... It's been KinoOI for a looong time. He went from Lorenzo to Kino to Scarface.
Anyway, I believe he's gone and in a better place now (like his girlfriend's pants
)Sure do miss the f'ucker though.
TheManlyMan
Don Juan
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- Age
- 37
when I feel flashy I wear button ups and clean jeans w/ clean shoes.
favorite combo.
black tank top/wife beater
tight fitting white button up w/ black pink and yellow stripes
straight black jeans
black on white Nike Air Forces
Fashion Shields (those sun glasses that are silver at the top but fade away so they're clear at the bottom of the lens)
^ when I go sarging, this combo gets tons of compliments
CrazyAsianBiker
Don Juan
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- May 16, 2003
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theory of knowledge
Don Juan
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br khakis and ripped jeans
gap/br dress shirts (striped or darker colours...im not tall)
mexx blazer/leather jacket/wool coat
adidas/puma/shox
i got a question...what can i wear with Banana chinos beside dress shoes? i dont like wearing dress shoes on a daily basis.
im thinking of trying that adidas oldschool style in the future.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.