"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your opinion on women who poledance

Huffman

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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taiyuu_otoko

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I would say need more data. I would guess that saying you like pole dancing might be to create the "idea" that she's a stripper, when she's just a poser. Just another thing women do to generate interest in as many males as possible. I've never talked to a self-professed pole dancer before (outside of a strip club, that is) but I would just keep up the "aloofness" and pretend she said she likes something more neutral. Never know until you get to know her more. Maybe she is an absolute freak who can't get enough boloney poney, but then again it could just be part of the act. Remember, never trust what she says, only trust what she does.
 

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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In the end they do it for attention. Why poles? Why does it have to be? Because they think it's sexy and what men want to see.
 

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Heck I'd even lie and say I dated a stripper once. See what her reaction is.
That's a good strategy if you can think quickly on your feet. Take whatever she THINKS makes her more attractive and turn it around so it's a negative. (Of course works best if it's true if not YMMV)

Her: I practice pole dancing..

You: Oh really? I've dated a couple of strippers, those girls are psycho, you don't do that professionally, do you?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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beforeimgone

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
Opinions, experiences?

It takes a certain type of woman to survive in the pole dance industry. The majority are driven by the dollar signs, attention, and power they feel from horny betas. The minority are forced into the industry because they are damaged or have nothing else going for them( desperate).


Personally, pole dancers are only as good as the quality of orgasm that she can provide for you.
 
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