Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Your opinion on women who poledance

Huffman

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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taiyuu_otoko

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I would say need more data. I would guess that saying you like pole dancing might be to create the "idea" that she's a stripper, when she's just a poser. Just another thing women do to generate interest in as many males as possible. I've never talked to a self-professed pole dancer before (outside of a strip club, that is) but I would just keep up the "aloofness" and pretend she said she likes something more neutral. Never know until you get to know her more. Maybe she is an absolute freak who can't get enough boloney poney, but then again it could just be part of the act. Remember, never trust what she says, only trust what she does.
 

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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In the end they do it for attention. Why poles? Why does it have to be? Because they think it's sexy and what men want to see.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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Heck I'd even lie and say I dated a stripper once. See what her reaction is.
That's a good strategy if you can think quickly on your feet. Take whatever she THINKS makes her more attractive and turn it around so it's a negative. (Of course works best if it's true if not YMMV)

Her: I practice pole dancing..

You: Oh really? I've dated a couple of strippers, those girls are psycho, you don't do that professionally, do you?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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beforeimgone

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
Opinions, experiences?

It takes a certain type of woman to survive in the pole dance industry. The majority are driven by the dollar signs, attention, and power they feel from horny betas. The minority are forced into the industry because they are damaged or have nothing else going for them( desperate).


Personally, pole dancers are only as good as the quality of orgasm that she can provide for you.
 
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