"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Your opinion on women who poledance

Huffman

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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taiyuu_otoko

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I would say need more data. I would guess that saying you like pole dancing might be to create the "idea" that she's a stripper, when she's just a poser. Just another thing women do to generate interest in as many males as possible. I've never talked to a self-professed pole dancer before (outside of a strip club, that is) but I would just keep up the "aloofness" and pretend she said she likes something more neutral. Never know until you get to know her more. Maybe she is an absolute freak who can't get enough boloney poney, but then again it could just be part of the act. Remember, never trust what she says, only trust what she does.
 

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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In the end they do it for attention. Why poles? Why does it have to be? Because they think it's sexy and what men want to see.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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Heck I'd even lie and say I dated a stripper once. See what her reaction is.
That's a good strategy if you can think quickly on your feet. Take whatever she THINKS makes her more attractive and turn it around so it's a negative. (Of course works best if it's true if not YMMV)

Her: I practice pole dancing..

You: Oh really? I've dated a couple of strippers, those girls are psycho, you don't do that professionally, do you?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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beforeimgone

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
Opinions, experiences?

It takes a certain type of woman to survive in the pole dance industry. The majority are driven by the dollar signs, attention, and power they feel from horny betas. The minority are forced into the industry because they are damaged or have nothing else going for them( desperate).


Personally, pole dancers are only as good as the quality of orgasm that she can provide for you.
 
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