"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Huffman

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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taiyuu_otoko

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I would say need more data. I would guess that saying you like pole dancing might be to create the "idea" that she's a stripper, when she's just a poser. Just another thing women do to generate interest in as many males as possible. I've never talked to a self-professed pole dancer before (outside of a strip club, that is) but I would just keep up the "aloofness" and pretend she said she likes something more neutral. Never know until you get to know her more. Maybe she is an absolute freak who can't get enough boloney poney, but then again it could just be part of the act. Remember, never trust what she says, only trust what she does.
 

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
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In the end they do it for attention. Why poles? Why does it have to be? Because they think it's sexy and what men want to see.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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Heck I'd even lie and say I dated a stripper once. See what her reaction is.
That's a good strategy if you can think quickly on your feet. Take whatever she THINKS makes her more attractive and turn it around so it's a negative. (Of course works best if it's true if not YMMV)

Her: I practice pole dancing..

You: Oh really? I've dated a couple of strippers, those girls are psycho, you don't do that professionally, do you?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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beforeimgone

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So I was indoor bouldering today and I met this woman (probably 30). She was very friendly and followed me around. I was aloof, I was not orbiting but I also didn't manage to project much sexuality so I guess I landed myself a climbing buddy in the friend zone. Anyway that's not the topic!

She said that pole dancing is her passion, and she was also wearing makeup, looking like your stereotypical r&b nightclub ferrari-loving airhead b!tch. She's not the type I usually go for. But her personality seemed really down to earth... or maybe she was just hiding it because she liked me. Anyway I probably blew this one, but it got me thinking!

What - do you think - does pole dancing say about a woman? Slutty? Very feminine? Wants you to lay down the law hard? Even better - I don't know that but imagine she was a stripper. You met her outside of work so you're not a customer hoping to start an exploitive relationship.
Opinions, experiences?

It takes a certain type of woman to survive in the pole dance industry. The majority are driven by the dollar signs, attention, and power they feel from horny betas. The minority are forced into the industry because they are damaged or have nothing else going for them( desperate).


Personally, pole dancers are only as good as the quality of orgasm that she can provide for you.
 
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