As a DJ you will pursue many women, and not all of them will submit to your charms. Therefore, it is critical to be able to "turn off" your feelings for certain woman at will, in particular the extremely attractive ones.
Part of being able to disconnect is not overconnecting (i.e. obsessing) in the first place. When you focus on any idea it is like looking at the sun. After you look away it leaves trails and distorts your vision. If you think about a woman too much you will find her image superimposed everywhere you look, so beware of this. When you find this occurring it's probably because something is lacking in your life (other women for example). However, we often become obsessed with them to begin with because they became obsessed with us but then withdrew their affection. We're only as good as our second best option.
The ability to disconnect your feelings comes with practice. You need to not only have a couple numbers to text, but a couple relationships going (that is, women you are having sex with).
Often in a relationship you don't have to actually end it, but simply temporarily pause things by walking away and making her pursue you. Anytime she does anything you don't like you should basically walk away until she approaches you again.
When you learn to disconnect from women who reject you, you will often find they become interested later, but more importantly you will be able to remain focused on the women who are interested now.
EDIT: In italics.
Part of being able to disconnect is not overconnecting (i.e. obsessing) in the first place. When you focus on any idea it is like looking at the sun. After you look away it leaves trails and distorts your vision. If you think about a woman too much you will find her image superimposed everywhere you look, so beware of this. When you find this occurring it's probably because something is lacking in your life (other women for example). However, we often become obsessed with them to begin with because they became obsessed with us but then withdrew their affection. We're only as good as our second best option.
The ability to disconnect your feelings comes with practice. You need to not only have a couple numbers to text, but a couple relationships going (that is, women you are having sex with).
Often in a relationship you don't have to actually end it, but simply temporarily pause things by walking away and making her pursue you. Anytime she does anything you don't like you should basically walk away until she approaches you again.
When you learn to disconnect from women who reject you, you will often find they become interested later, but more importantly you will be able to remain focused on the women who are interested now.
EDIT: In italics.
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