Suaveman
Don Juan
What is the most effective technique you DJs have used for roping in girls?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This can work against you quite easily... your focusing on negatives and what can go wrong rather then what can go right... it can make you more un-easy then anything else.For example:
a) Don't make EC with a HB and forget to smile. (You look like a stalker waiting for a chance to kill)
b) Don't approach a HB and not say anything. (If you do this you are a pansie-@$$)
c) Don't use C+F and forget to smile. (Sincere C+F? You may as well go tell her you are a necropheliac and ask her how well she plays dead!!!)
d)Don't fake confidence and expect results. (If you do this, OMG I can't even think of some smart@$$ remark to say !!!!!)
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Press lightly between the second and third cervical vertebrae until you start to see her nostrils flare. Then she's yours to command however you wish. Just don't spread this around too much, it's dangerous in the wrong handsOriginally posted by Suaveman
What is the most effective technique you DJs have used for roping in girls?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Wrong.Originally posted by DJ_Dork
Techniques and strategies don't work if the girl didn't find you physically adequate in the first place.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.