"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your marital status and desire to be married?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
European-DJ
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Even though i am 19, i KNOW i want a son - no daughters, i am in no need of more than one female in the house....
women haze
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Yet so far this poll is showing that men want to settle down...interesting
Men want to settle down, but judging from the candidates to choose from, it's better to remain single and date often.women haze said:
Also, if this poll is under the mature forum, most guys would want to be single. In the regular forum, the young ones are still fantasizing about happily ever after.
But I couldn't really give a fvck about that...waaayyy too much work.
The ideal situation is to knock up a married woman and get some other poor sap to raise your kids. I almost did that a few years back.
Some might call it unethical, but happens all the fvcking time. Get your head out of lala land and realise that for men, marriage is a very big decision not to be taken lightly.
Add to that the fact that ANY woman will cheat, given the right circumstances, and it just looks like a lose-lose situation to me.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Upside
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The part that wants to is my idealism coming out. Finding the right girl, right time, right everything without a care in the world.
The part that doesn't is pragmatic. I fully understand the risks and dangers that entail. The fact that the dating period is just mostly the good sample enticing you to buy the whole enchilada, which turns out to be spoiled, rotten, and made with $hit quality ingredients.
If I EVER decide to take the plunge, I will not be going the "traditional" way. Cheap, but symbolic ring. Cheap, but meaningful wedding. Basically, I will have a woman who lives her life just as frugally as I do. And if she doesn't like it, she made it easy for me to show her the door with a good luck pat on the ass.
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DonGorgon
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
"He had everything, a great job, a beautiful wife, two loving children...."
Of course it all goes wrong for him in the film, but what struck me was the fact that our society considers the following to be "everything":
1) job
2) wife
3) kids
Reinforcement of monogamy
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.