"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your marital status and desire to be married?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
European-DJ
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Even though i am 19, i KNOW i want a son - no daughters, i am in no need of more than one female in the house....
women haze
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Yet so far this poll is showing that men want to settle down...interesting
Men want to settle down, but judging from the candidates to choose from, it's better to remain single and date often.women haze said:
Also, if this poll is under the mature forum, most guys would want to be single. In the regular forum, the young ones are still fantasizing about happily ever after.
But I couldn't really give a fvck about that...waaayyy too much work.
The ideal situation is to knock up a married woman and get some other poor sap to raise your kids. I almost did that a few years back.
Some might call it unethical, but happens all the fvcking time. Get your head out of lala land and realise that for men, marriage is a very big decision not to be taken lightly.
Add to that the fact that ANY woman will cheat, given the right circumstances, and it just looks like a lose-lose situation to me.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Upside
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The part that wants to is my idealism coming out. Finding the right girl, right time, right everything without a care in the world.
The part that doesn't is pragmatic. I fully understand the risks and dangers that entail. The fact that the dating period is just mostly the good sample enticing you to buy the whole enchilada, which turns out to be spoiled, rotten, and made with $hit quality ingredients.
If I EVER decide to take the plunge, I will not be going the "traditional" way. Cheap, but symbolic ring. Cheap, but meaningful wedding. Basically, I will have a woman who lives her life just as frugally as I do. And if she doesn't like it, she made it easy for me to show her the door with a good luck pat on the ass.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"He had everything, a great job, a beautiful wife, two loving children...."
Of course it all goes wrong for him in the film, but what struck me was the fact that our society considers the following to be "everything":
1) job
2) wife
3) kids
Reinforcement of monogamy
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.