"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your marital status and desire to be married?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
European-DJ
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Even though i am 19, i KNOW i want a son - no daughters, i am in no need of more than one female in the house....
women haze
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Yet so far this poll is showing that men want to settle down...interesting
Men want to settle down, but judging from the candidates to choose from, it's better to remain single and date often.women haze said:
Also, if this poll is under the mature forum, most guys would want to be single. In the regular forum, the young ones are still fantasizing about happily ever after.
But I couldn't really give a fvck about that...waaayyy too much work.
The ideal situation is to knock up a married woman and get some other poor sap to raise your kids. I almost did that a few years back.
Some might call it unethical, but happens all the fvcking time. Get your head out of lala land and realise that for men, marriage is a very big decision not to be taken lightly.
Add to that the fact that ANY woman will cheat, given the right circumstances, and it just looks like a lose-lose situation to me.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Upside
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The part that wants to is my idealism coming out. Finding the right girl, right time, right everything without a care in the world.
The part that doesn't is pragmatic. I fully understand the risks and dangers that entail. The fact that the dating period is just mostly the good sample enticing you to buy the whole enchilada, which turns out to be spoiled, rotten, and made with $hit quality ingredients.
If I EVER decide to take the plunge, I will not be going the "traditional" way. Cheap, but symbolic ring. Cheap, but meaningful wedding. Basically, I will have a woman who lives her life just as frugally as I do. And if she doesn't like it, she made it easy for me to show her the door with a good luck pat on the ass.
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DonGorgon
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"He had everything, a great job, a beautiful wife, two loving children...."
Of course it all goes wrong for him in the film, but what struck me was the fact that our society considers the following to be "everything":
1) job
2) wife
3) kids
Reinforcement of monogamy
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.